There´s this guy i´ve been seeing for three years, on and off, but he never get´s serious with me, instead he gets serious with girls that don´t even measure up to me and they always leave him heart broken, so I´m I doing something wrong or is he the one with the issues. He always comes looking back for me and then he leaves me for someone else. Help me understand why!!
2006-09-07 16:03:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello KKKKatie !
I'm sorry to say he has issues; after some trashy girl/girls rips his heart out, he comes crawling back to you, so you can take care of his wounds ? The Bleeping nerve !
Here's the thing; he doesn't take you seriously, and he never will. You said this has been going on for three years ? You've given this USER/LOSER enough of your time.
Guys like him do not respect good women; they want some *****-ee ( forgive me ) Jezebel who will screw them over, and make them feel like garbage, and they keep crawling back for more- they're pathetic !
Why, you ask ? They have low self esteem, and they actively seek out relationships where they'll be abused, because they don't believe they deserve any better.
See, he'll never stay with you because you're too good for him; that's why he always leaves you for someone of low standards.
He comes back to you because he knows you'll let him back, and you'll stoke his ego, and patch up his wounds, but instead of coming to his senses, and realize you're a nice/great gal, he CHOOSES to select another hussy to get serious with.
Flippin' jerk .
So sweetie here's the deal: he doesnt want a nice girl; for him, nice girls are only good for a few things:
1. the obvious, and 2., make him feel good enough so he can go out and get another strumpet ( look the word up, it's a good one) who will break him down, and have fun doing it .
I speak from experience; many moons ago, I was that nice girl; actually, I was a doormat. My ex would leave/cheat with a girl who stole all his jewelry, pawned it, and purchased an ankle length lambskin trenchcoat, and when questioned her; she called him every kind of ugly-stupid-gorilla-retarded-bastard she could think of- AND THEN, told him she didn't want to see him anymore... He was crushed, so he came back to me, and like the sucker I was; I let him.
I was to blame too.
Men like these like drama. They like abuse; how else do you explain it ? Their actions speak for itself. There is a part of him that loves to be dogged out by a female, plain and simple.
Leave him alone. Let someone else help him lick his wounds, after some *ahem* woman tears him to pieces..
I know you like him, probably even love him; but do you really want a man who makes a conscious decision to have a relationship with some trashy girl, who'll walk all over him ?
Not really, no.
The only wrong thing you're doing is taking him back.
Enough is enough ! Don't take him back anymore; he doesn't deserve you, and you darn well don't deserve him. You do know you deserve better, right ?
Let him go, good ridance. Out with the bad, and in with the new !
Oh, and by the way, the last I heard of my ex, was that he's being dogged out by SEVERAL women who are taking him to the cleaners for child support. Ugh, loser !
There are BILLIONS of men on Gods green earth; your odds on finding one who will do right by you are AWESOME ! * smile *
Love, light, and peace
tishy
2006-09-07 17:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by bubletish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry this is happening,but this guy looks more to you as a good sexual friend someone who he can run to when he feels like he has failed. If you aren't looking to be in a relationship then don't question him. Beside you are the right person he just don't look at you in that type of way because you have let him in and out of your life. He see that you are going to let him back in every time he comes back then there is no reason to commit or even pursue a relationship. Close the door don't keep him thinking that you are a door mat let him continue to get hurt until he realize that what he has been searching for has been right under hi nose all along but he fail to see and now the chance has passed him by. Don't underestimate yourself you are beautiful and if he chose not to be with you then that was his mistake and a problem he brought on his self. Be easy and put your feet down you should be RESPECTED all the time.
2006-09-07 23:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a total jerk. Firstly, you should dump him. A guy that's going to leave you for second choice isn't a guy at all; remember that. There are so many nice guys out there that will center their attention to you. You should never have to put up with a guy like that; and no, it's not your fault at all.
I had a guyfriend that I totally secretly liked him, but he would always leave me for second choice when HIS crush would give him time of the day. I stopped being his friend, and told him the reason.
If this relationship is making you have doubts about yourself, dump him, and plainly tell him your reason.
2006-09-07 23:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your his standby girl. He keeps you on a string just in case something doesn't work for him. Tell him you aren't going to play second fiddle to his other girlfriends...either get serious with you or stop running to you crying when one of his ho's dumps him....
2006-09-07 23:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey its him cause dude he is always left hart broken and u never do nothing wrong cause u never brake his heart
P.S. i'm a guy and NO im not gay
2006-09-07 23:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Salinas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all his fault, he uses the other girls for their bodies and you for comfort, dont try to get serious with this guy because he has nothing beneficial to offer you
2006-09-07 23:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by katie_ray22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life, give your self a better chance!
2006-09-07 23:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by maury3222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon you can find someone much much better! it may take some time but a guy is out there waiting for you.
2006-09-07 23:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by LilahFairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you. sorry to be so blunt. He does that becuase he knows you will always take him back.
2006-09-07 23:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by MaTt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE YOUR JUST HIS SEX TOY WHEN HE DOESN'T HAVE ONE AT THE TIME. GET ANOTHER LIFE.
2006-09-07 23:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋