2006-09-07 15:25:57 · 31 answers · asked by izzy123pink 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
omg. i hope that you never let her around him again, she needs to be nurtured, loved and cared for from this point. this is so heartbreaking to hear. i'm so sorry for you and for her. just make sure that you give her an abundance of love and make sure that she understands how much you will love and protect her. i hope that she is too young to ever remember. i will pray for her. good luck.
2006-09-07 15:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by mamabird 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
She needs to be nurtured and she should be in counselling for a while and so should you. you are actually the one that htis will probably have the worst affect on. A lot of people think that by being molested and abused as a child your entire life is ruined. It's usually not the case. You have to remember not to coddle her and give in to her because of any guilt you may feel because of what happened. Don't let her relive it because you do. Unfortuantly the law is not harsh enough on these perverts but you do need to get him arrested and charged. I would be sure to campaign to keep him locked up as long as possible.
Just be the best mother you can be to your daughter and don't let this dictate how the rest of hers and your lives are going to be led.
My heart goes out to the both of you. Good luck and blessings
2006-09-07 15:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by ploobis 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just do not know what to say she is very young at the moment and probably will not remember this happening i am not suggesting u put it behind u U may need to get some help to help u deal with what has happened to Ur little girl there r heaps of places around i am very sorry that this happen to u and hope that this man has come to Justice i have 2 daughters myself and would not know what to do i do hope this has helped u i am sure u will work it out and what ever u do will b the right thing 4 u and ur daughter best of luck
2006-09-07 15:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by sue w 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would definitely get her help now. As far as you dealing with it, the only thing that I can think of why you would ask a question like that is guilt. You really need to let go of the guilt, and get some help too. I'd keep that S. O B. as far away from your daughter as possible.
He is slime for his actions. Make the upcoming years about your daughter. She's the real victim here, not you.
Good Luck!
2006-09-07 15:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by easygoingfemale44 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
make sure she is getting professional help. Make sure you are educated on how kids act that have been abused and best ways to deal with that. Make sure she is never around her father again. It's HARD my daughter was 3 when she told me her step sister "from her fathers 1st wife" who use to visit on weekends was doing nasty stuff to her I was so CRUSHED. Her sister was 8 old enough to KNOW it was wrong and was hiding to do it. I took my daughter to a doctor to check her out she talked to a counselor. My daughters 8 now she has never seen the sister again. She did have some issues sleeping and wetting the bed and getting very angry after that happened,. I don't think it's had a lasting impact "at least i hope not".
2006-09-07 15:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I understand your issue it is a hard one to face but you need to be strong for you and your daughter. Report it to the police and social services. Get therapy for yourself and your daughter. And change custody with the courts to get a protective order for yourself and her. I know because both my children were molested by their father when I found out they were 4 yrs and 3 yrs old(now they are 9 yrs and 8 yrs but taking things one day at time)So Good Luck and take care.
2006-09-07 16:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Along with counseling, try to keep everything as normal as possible for you and her. My heart goes out to both of you. I know this must be one of the hardest things you have ever had to go through. With her age, she should recover and have very little memory if any at all of what happened. I was around that age when my mother's fiance took me from my crib and took me out in the woods and beat me severely. I didn't remember, but throughout my life I had strange dreams and after several years told a family member about the dreams. That was when I learned about what had happened. I guess maybe it was buried in my subconscious, I don't know.
2006-09-07 15:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to deal with her first and you second. She is the most important thing in your life. I hope the police are involved. Next, get professional help for her and you. Talk with her. if she doesn't want to talk with you find someone. She will need this. She has to know that she did nothing wrong and you will be by her side through this rotten and cruel ordeal. I will PRAY FOR HER AND YOU. Get help soon, and remember to love her every day.
2006-09-07 15:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by lynnie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about this nightmare you and your baby are going thru. You have to get this animal locked up. Notify the police to get that animal in the cage. You cannot deal with this problem by yourself. You and your daughter need proffesional help right away. remember you are not by yourself. Hang in there.
2006-09-07 17:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you how to deal with it unless someone's kid had been threw it. I would never let her go around him and for 2 he wouldnt be her dad. that is just some sick **** to do to a small person. I was raped by my step-dad when i was 12 i didnt tell no one.. i let it out about a year ago and no one believed me not even my mom thats married to him. I pray u dont let her around him he is a sick person. He needs help. If you aint called the police u need to his ass needs to be in jail. where the sick mother ****** belongs. im sorry to hear that but if someone had touched my son i would be in jail cause i would kill them..im sorry u can email me at tisha_lynn2003@yahoo.com if u need to talk....
2006-09-07 15:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by Deshawn & Keshawn's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get help - and get out of the relationship. Its as simple as that.
Your child needs to grow up in a healthy and happy environmnent. If the father is harming the child he should have NO contact with her what so ever.
Dont turn your back on this or you are just as bad as he is.
2006-09-07 17:12:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋