Ok this guy and I have flirted back and forth, for like 6 months. We're just acquaintances. But I really wish we could be semi friends. The thing is I admit I've had a crush on him. But I realize it could never be because I'm to old for him. He's 25 and I'm 35. The thing is whenever I try to talk to him he acts really odd and then acts distance toward me for a while. Then he goes back to being kind of friendly. Sometimes eye contact really deeply and sometimes not at all. I just don't know what to do. It's like I feel he's uncomfortable around me sometimes. And that makes me very uncomfortable. We work at the same place just not the same department. When he acts distant I act distant. But then when he's talking to a mutual friend and I get in the talk. Just asked him like one little question he runs off. Acts frustrated and looks at me really oddly. What can I do to correct this situation. I don't even know that I've really done anything that awful do you?
2006-09-07 15:18:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
25 and 35- that is not an age problem, sounds like you may be the one with a problem over it.
Maybe you are coming on to strong or worse, not communicating your desires.
2006-09-07 15:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's hard to hide it when you have a crush. You're clearly infatuated, and trying to control it - so you may be putting so much pressure on yourself (look at how hard you're trying to analyze what you do, what he does) that you aren't coming off as your natural self, but more like a girl with a hard core crush.
How about taking a deep breath, stepping back, and just being pleasant? 25 isn't the same level of experience everywhere, and he may not be sure how to respond appropriately - and worried about responding inappropriately, given that this is the workplace we're talking about. Give the guy a little breathing space, take as many deep, slow breaths as you need and try for "professional but pleasant."
If he's interested, he'll let you know, and he'd doubtless appreciate a little space.
2006-09-07 15:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not continuously imagine about this "particular ingredient" about you. basically loosen up! hear to some melodious song with closed eyes. Make your self trust in best means. Then initiate believing you've not any particular ingredient. Even intelligence is sturdy surely to a minimize. Be confident. you may get over this confusion very quickly, bcoz you're viewing your self interior. know your self more desirable proper. all the proper!
2016-11-25 19:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by killeen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months is way too long to not be boffing. You are both hot and bothered. You need to take action. He won't for fear of sexual harassment. The ball is in your court.
Stalk him when he's getting off work heading to his car. Or park next to him and 'accidentlly' arrive at your car when he's arriving at his. Invite him for a drink at a hotel bar. Don't take no for an answer. Have a room already booked. Be dressed hot above and below. Wear high heals. Have good perfume on. Sand and Sable.
Have a drink, don't get drunk. Maybe one drink for him to loosen him up. Pretend you are tipsy from the drink and ask him to walk you to your room. Ask him in when you get there. The rest is easy.
2006-09-07 15:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by x 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably likes you more than he lets on, that's why he's sometimes very nice to you, but he's embarrassed about the age difference. Sorry to say this, but it's like riding a moped; it's cool as long as none of your friends see you. I would suggest forgetting about him, and finding someone that is not embarrassed to be with you.
2006-09-07 15:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just be a friendly person .
You may be reading in something which is not there on his part.
From what you have said it appears this way.
Take care!
2006-09-07 15:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋