reason, right? Or no? He says he's stopped watching porn. But I dunno.
2006-09-07 15:09:21 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
tricky trucker -
You sound creepy.
2006-09-07 15:13:54 · update #1
No, I'm not giving him up "just like that." There's a whole litany of reasons we're divorcing.
But I'd like born again christians only to answer, please.
2006-09-07 15:15:42 · update #2
if he has stopped and isn't doing it anymore then i think it's ok..he needs to be forgiven and not do it anymore...
2006-09-07 15:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by manda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that this is hard on you and it will take a while for you to recover from this. The Bible teaches us that we're supposed to love our spouses through thick and thin. At the altar you and him both said the whole thing about 'for better or worse'. I know it's hard, sweetie. But just don't give up hope. Like the others said, go to a Christian counsellor, both of you. If he refuses to go, go by yourself. And I'll be praying for you, ok? Also, the Bible does say something about not ever leaving your spouse except for the cause of fornication (Matthew 5:32). To be honest, I'm not sure if that would include porn. I don't really think it would, but the whole situation is definitely something to be in much prayer about. Talk with your husband openly, lovingly, and respectfully. Try not to just put him down, but let him know how you feel. Also, read Isaiah 43:2, Matthew 28:20, and 1 Corinthians chapter 13.
2006-09-07 22:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by chocolatelovergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight from the bible, in 2Cor 14-15 and also in one of the timothys i believe. If you divorce for any reason other than adultery and YOUR unsaved spouse askes for a divorce and you give it to him, only for these 2 reason is divorce acceptable and other than that, you sin, if you remarry a divorcee and your "ex"husband is still alive, its a sin. If somone has never been married and they marry you, you sin. God intended for marriage to be till death, thats why these are sins. Yes, i am saying once you are married you will always be married, to God, no matter what the world court system tells you, so you sin if you marry again unless your spouse is dead. God honors seperation and there is no doubt God will handle the situation however He needs to if one of you (better if its both of you) will do your best with the marriage even if the other wont, but remember, you cant give God a time frame which means you have to be patient and let God do His God stuff. As you know God isnt going to make either of you to do the right things, but He will convict and both of you have to obey. I know about the porn problem and if He does decide to quit the addiction, it will be an extra hard desire to quit. Im a recovering porn addict for 4 years now and its a stuggle everytime i get on the computer. I desire it everyday and i cant and wont tell you that ive been perfect but God has changed my life considerably. If he is serious about God, he wants to quit but he wont until God reveals why he cant quit, and i dont mean car wreaks or being shot or anything hazerdous to him, but spiritually speaking. On his defence, its more than just a desire to see other women but an addiction. I hate it that i put my wife through that and i know it made her uncomfortable, loved, cheap, not good enough,hurt, angry, sad, you get the picture. The act of adultery is sexual immorality, and yet so is looking at guys or gals with a lustful heart. God wants every marrage to work out, even if adultery was commited.
2006-09-07 22:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Airman_P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to encourage -- nay, insist -- that you do something strange: read a novel titled "A Time to Dance" by Karen Kingsbury. Never before has anything brought my marriage under such a spotlight, and I would encourage any Christian married person to read it.
I can't give you a definite yes or no, because I don't know your situation. I think too many people think of divorce as an option, when truly, if you are married, you are family. You should consider leaving him to be like leaving your son -- something only acceptable if he's putting you in danger. It's not just OK to get a divorce, but I can't say it's not sometimes necessary. Without more reasons, you're going to have to be the judge of that.
But please, please, read that book. Before you make any decisions, read it. It's not a long or hard read. It will make you think about yourself and your marriage, and if at the end of the book you still wish to leave, then at least you will understand better why.
2006-09-07 22:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by ©2007 answers by missy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, I think that God wants us to serve as an expression of his love, and that means especially in a marriage/serious relationship. Sex is an intimate thing, and if you love someone, you trust them, and it's okay to do things that feel good. Especially if you're married. I don't think it's a reason for divorce. There are times my significant other and I incorporate porn into our sexual behaviors. Sometimes I watch it to learn new things, and so does he. Our sex life has never been better...and he loves me, not some bimbo riding a c ock on the big screen. Plus, part of being sexually openminded means being okay with your man wacking it every once in a while, because you're not always going to be in the mood. And from watching my significant other's porn I learn what he likes and doesn't like, so I can be his own personal porn star. Porn is not evil, lol, it can be used for good! Lol.
2006-09-07 23:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I noticed that you said former in your question so you must have reason to believe that he has stopped. And yes the Bible speaks of sexual immorality as well as many other things that are sinful. Since the fall of man kind in the garden we are all sinful. Am I saying this is right for him to be doing no, by no means but we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of GOD. But as Jesus taught us by a glorious example that we should forgive and help each other move closer to GOD. Please seek council with your Pastor before you make any decision that you might latter regret.
2006-09-07 22:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by bigjg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christian women are not to divorce their husbands. Do some studies in the Bible on this, I did. If he is a believer, you stay. If he is a non-believer, you also stay, you will be a blessing for him and show him the way. Only if a non-believer divorces you is it looked upon by God with favor. The Bible says adultery is the only reason for divorce, and lusting in the heart is adultery. If he needs professional help with this, run with him to do it. In fact, i would recommend it even if he says he has stopped. It's an addiction, you can't just walk away from one without help, see that he gets it. I am praying for your marriage. God Bless.
2006-09-07 22:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but i noticed that you said "No, I'm not giving him up "just like that." There's a whole litany of reasons we're divorcing."
In other words, your husband's "former" porn addtiction is not the real reason that you are divorcing.
I don't think that God will condone a divorce on a pretense, sorry.
2006-09-07 22:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God hates divorce. He always prefers reconciliation - even for the only acceptable reason for divorce in God's eyes, which is unfaithfulness.
Remember...God brought you two together. You respect God in this...and work on a marriage in both good and bad times. You were married before God and man...disbanding such a union is serious to God, regardless of how common it is for us.
God loved your husband enough to create him...and send His only Son to die for him. Does you love for God exceed all else? Do you align yourself with God's Will? Do you share the love for your husband that God does? Even 10% of it? Sounds like your husband needs some prayer and help. I think it would be devastating in his time of need to have his wife bail out.
Just my thoughts.
2006-09-07 22:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by BowtiePasta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to the Bible...divorce is only excused for infidelity.
If your husband has said that he is not doing this anymore, you must believe him and trust that he has stopped. Pray for him and pray for your marriage to be strengthened.
If he has not stopped or starts this again... then he should seek medical help. This is an addiction.
God bless you.
2006-09-07 22:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by MesquiteGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is immoral and wrong, but before you rush into a divorce, seek counseling from your pastor or a marriage counselor. Hopefully it is something that can be overcome and you can work through it and be happy. I wish you all the best.
2006-09-07 22:17:17 · answer #11 · answered by Nelita C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋