We are having a closed wedding for only parents and grandparents and then we each have acousin who will stand up with us. Then of course we still plan to have huge but casual reception is it still ok for my cousin to plan a bridal shower? Or is that begging for gifts?
2006-09-07 15:07:17 · 16 answers · asked by andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it's a tradition = GO FOR IT!!
2006-09-07 15:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by xSublimeSorrowx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sort of in the same situation. We went to another state and got married. We took a wedding party and close family members and a few friends with us. We came back and had a huge reception. My mother and sisters threw us a BIG party before the wedding. It was a couples shower. Instead of having bachelor and bachelorette parties and a shower we just did this. It was a ton of fun and we got a ton of gifts!
Congrats and best of luck!
2006-09-08 08:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is ok to have a shower. But if you are worried about it, just send out "Reception Invitations" with a registry enclosed. This way your guests will still be invited and they will get the hint that gifts will be accepted and very much appreciated.
I didn't have a shower. I did, however, have a nice wedding and a wonderful reception. We received lots of gifts and more than $500 in our "card box". Just do whatever pleases you and your fiance.
Oh yeah, CONGRATULATIONS!!
2006-09-07 22:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by little mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely ok :) There isn't a rule (or even an expectation) that the people at your shower will be invited to your wedding.
As someone who's been to about 300 wedding and baby showers, I can tell you most people only go to showers for people they like and they're happy to invited to be part of the celebration.
2006-09-08 01:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a small, intimate ceremony, maybe 6-7 people more than you're having, then a somewhat larger reception. My aunts still insisted on throwing me a shower, and rather than fight them on it, I let them do it. I don't think it's begging for gifts. If you were throwing it for yourself, I would see something wrong with it. But you aren't, so why not enjoy all of the aspects that generally go along with getting married?
2006-09-08 02:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family members should not throw your shower anyways-- that's not proper.
I would not recommend you have a shower in your situation. Then again, I think hardly anyone should have a shower these days-- It's rapidly becoming a very inappropriate custom in this country. (Showers are for couples who would have trouble "setting up housekeeping" without the help of others-- in fact they are so needy that a friend recognizes their need and thoughtfully organizes a shower in honor of the bride. But in this day and age when people often have already lived on their own for a while, and in many cases actually already own TOO MUCH STUFF... it's ridiculous to be throwing these people showers!)
2006-09-08 00:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok, as long as everyone invited to the shower is invited to the reception. You don't have to explain to anyone about your choice of a wedding, and they can choose if they want to participate or not. Congrats!
2006-09-07 22:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok, but I would skip the shower. Having multiple parties associated with a wedding are usually done for people who are inviting everyone and providing dinner and drinks.
2006-09-07 22:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by cloudnine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not begging at all. Just invite all shower attendees to the reception. :) Most will PERFECTLY understand the "small wedding" idea.
2006-09-07 22:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Wander Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A shower is OK under your circumstances. Just don't invite people that you hardly know (has happened to me). Congrats on your upcoming marriage!
2006-09-07 22:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by knowledgeisgood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't invite people to your shower that are not invited to your wedding. I think that's rude.
2006-09-07 22:22:10 · answer #11 · answered by kristina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋