I have been talking to a guy for a couple months and he is a nice guy and we talk every night for hours online and have went out a few times. The problem is he is so cheap. If we go to a restaraunt we only get chips (those things they serve before the meal) and he seldom asks me out (I don't think he wants to spend the gas money). I am comfortable with him and enjoy talking to him but it would be nice if he would open up a little ( he has a good job and an early retirement benefit, he is in his 50's) and he child is grown. I just wish he would take me to a nice dinner sometime or we could go someplace fun. I can't afford to do anything myself and it would just be fun to have a guy treat me.
2006-09-07 14:41:51 · 8 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't blame you for wanting to feel that the guy thinks you're special. But you can't change a person's nature--you have to accept him the way he is, and if you can't do that he's not the man for you. If you indeed have a good talking relationship to him, then you can take the risk and tell him how you feel about this issue--not that you think "men SHOULD treat women" but "feel" in the sense that "I feel that you don't think I'm special enough to even take me out for a nice dinner". But that's all you can do, the rest is up to him and you will have to accept the result.
2006-09-08 00:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice. Get out now. My husband is a very nice guy, he tries, but his number one concern is always for himself. This guy may just be a penny pintcher, but for whatever reason at this point he will never change. I've tried everything. Giving and giving, and hoping maybe I'd get it back, nope notta. Hey if you find something that works let me know lol. My husband and I have been together 2 1/2 yrs we've never been out to a nice dinner, and it's hard enough for me to get him to go to the movies. And although I love him so much, it hurts a lot, everyday. So do not get yourself into that kind of situation if your need more out of a relationship. If he's just cheap,there are other ways to spice up a date of course. Even just a romantic candle lit dinner at home, or on the beach, anything. It doesn't have to cost a lot. the point is to know that he put time and thought into it. am I right? You can go somewhere fun and not spend a lot of money. Bowling, miniture golfing so many things you can do. I have sat at a denny's till 4 am just drinking coffee and talking. It's more personal than online or the phone. If you were worth it to him he would drive 100 miles to see you as often as he could. But ask him if he would like to split the driving, assuming you've got a car. Take turns making the trip. Show him he's worth it too. Maybe he's having a hard time trusting you. What are his past relationships like? Do you know? If you really like him, give it time decide whether it's worth it to you to put the time and effort into it. Still, don't wait forever. I say the max is 6 months, and stay alert and notice everything, any kind of advancement. But if after 6 months he still has not improved then it's time to move on.
2006-09-07 21:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have financial obligations that you don't know anything about. He may be cheap. He may be filthy rich and is that way because he doesn't spend any money. Maybe he has money that is not secure and is afraid to spend it for the time being - right now many people are in that boat with the economy being the way it is.
He may be waiting to see if you dump him because he doesn't blow a wad of money on you - to see if you want him only for his money.
If you enjoy his company, do so, and don't expect him to toss around money just for the shear joy of it.
2006-09-07 21:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheap is cheap. If you can't spend the rest of your life with a cheapskate, then look for someone else.
2006-09-07 21:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your broke and want a sugar daddy but he probably doesn't want to be one.
2006-09-07 21:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by acidicblackrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking him what he enjoys?
2006-09-07 21:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Let him know that is what you want...
2006-09-07 22:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Optimus P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont they do what they want to do
2006-09-07 21:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋