Could this be why they have such a high divorce and remarriage rate?
2006-09-07 14:35:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Martin:
How can someone be questioned about their sexual expectations when they never experienced the sex act before? What in the world.........?
2006-09-07 14:44:24 · update #1
Don't you know that nothing shocks a Christian?
2006-09-07 14:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Red neck 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck no Christians love sex within a marriage just like everyone else. Sex between two married people is a gift from God. He gave us the parts and wants us to use them. Not just for making babies, but for exactly what it is, a loving physical pleasurable way of sharing each other and out love. I've been born again since 1976 and I surely do love all the sex I can get with my husband with an absolute zero guilt factor. And it's alot more than just the missionary position too.
2006-09-07 14:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kathie Emmanuelite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! That's why we view sex as such a sacred thing....because we KNOW what an important role it plays in marriage, and we want our marriages to be as wonderful as possible. Sex in a committed (married) relationship is a beautiful (and fun) thing. It just makes us sick to see it misused in such a horrible way.
And anyway....TRUE Christians do not believe in divorce or remarriage (accept in certain cases...........and if the other spouse was a true Christian, those certain cases wouldn't happen.)
2006-09-07 14:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by married_so_leave_me_alone1999 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You obviously never read Song of Solomon (or Song of Songs). God made us sexual beings. How else would we have families... God told us to "be fruitful and multiply. Divorce and remarriage among Christians is a sad commentary on how secular we behave, not on how big a role sex plays in marriage.
2006-09-07 14:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by MamaSunshine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No we are not shocked. Before my husband and I got married we had to go to marital counseling through the church. One chapter was on sex in the marriage. Sex is not dirty is is a gift of God meant to be enjoyed by a man and a woman. It is a sinful. perverted, corrupt society that has made sex a "dirty" thing to be ashamed of.
The sexual relationship between a man and a woman is mentioned in the Bible. Have you ever read The Song of Solomon? Read Chpt 4 it is very sensual.
What do you think you invented sex ?
How do you think Christians reproduce? By spontaneous generation?
2006-09-07 14:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it may play a big part, but it is still is not the biggest part. God's love is what has held my marriage together, not sex. Ummm, no that is not why there is such a high divorce rate....I'd say mainly it is because the devil is working hard on those who profess to be followers of Christ. But a marriage that is grounded in God's love will stay together.
2006-09-07 14:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Freedom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sex, like money, isn't a huge area of marriage except there are issues over it, and then it may wipe the marriage out. My wager is that the area isn't that you want to have sex continually, its that you frequently want sex till you get it. Its like complaining a starving human being 'continuously needs to eat'. they don't continuously favor to eat, yet even as they're hungry, they're going to favor to eat till they get some nutrients. the easy answer is, in case your spouse isn't exciting in having a sex existence with you, why are you at the same time with her? The more desirable complicated answer might want to be, cease anticipating sex out of your spouse. both discover different strategies to stay or discover sex elsewhere.
2016-11-25 19:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, we shouldn't be, there's a whole book in the bible devoted to sex. God actually encourages us to have pleasure when we are married. Read the Songs of Solomon in the Bible, and you'll think differently about what you asked and find it very romantic. God tells us not to have sex before marriage or look with lust, please don't get that mixed up with the heavenly sex after marriage.
¶ Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine. Song of Solomon 1:2
¶ How beautiful are thy feet with shoes, O prince's daughter! the joints of thy THIGHS are like jewels, the work of the hands of a cunning workman. Song of Solomon 7:1
" I am a wall, and my BREASTS like towers: then was I in his eyes as one that found favour." Song of Solomon 8:10
See told ya! :O)
And, divorce is due highly to the fact that most marriage couples do not talk, they build up things in there mind, until they explode. That's why it's very important to talk things out, always. God even instructs us on that too! (In the book of Corinthians) But we don't listen to him.
2006-09-07 14:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Brain 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since I wasn't a Christian when I was married, the question does not apply to me. The problem was not sex, it was his being an asshole and dictator. I have chosen not to remarry and made that decision before I became a Christian. I am not free to remarry until my ex-husband dies but that is a moot point because I do not wish to be married again, ever. By the way, I am Southern Baptist.
2006-09-07 14:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Missy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hardly. Christians don't exist in a vacuum. The reason why Christian divorce rates are about the same as that of non-Christians is because those polls only count people who "call themselves" Christians. When you narrow that field down to Christians who weekly attend a Bible teaching, Christ honoring, Spirit led and filled church, the numbers drop dramatically.
At the church I attend we don't have pre-marriage counseling, we have pre-engagement counseling where among other things couples are questioned about their sexual expectations from their potential future mate. http://www.alcf.net
2006-09-07 14:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by Martin S 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. Sex was meant to be within the confines of marriage. And, while it was for procreation initially, God also made it fun. It's the keeping it in the marriage that seems to bother people. Monogamy is hard in this age of wanting more, more, more when everything is about me, me, me. The focus is no longer on the marriage, but on sex instead.
2006-09-07 14:47:03 · answer #11 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋