When you do marry, how do you find out about the very severe sexual issues that arise? Aren't you interested about sexual compatability? What if he's impotent or has a tiny penis?--or he's latently gay?! Is this why perhaps Christians have such a high divorce and remarriage rate? Wouldn't it save a lot of money and broken hearts of kids if you tested it out before you bought it?
2006-09-07 14:22:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ok, now we all know the "I have nothing to compare it to so I am in the dark!" is a complete crap argument. Sexual satisfaction and dissatisfaction arise because of sexual issues that you KNOW are bad because the sex sucks! YOu don't have to have anything else to compare it to if the sex is miserable and you are too or if your man can't get it up-- no sex at all ....hello?
2006-09-07 14:31:01 · update #1
Like the saying goes, "Great lovers aren't born, they're made."
By the way "testing before you buy" doesn't solve or help anything. It only causes the complications that waiting spares.
2006-09-07 14:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Consuming Fire 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
if I had a marriage that was based solely on sex then I am positive it would not last long. I don't see why you say there are such high divorce rates among christians, you cannot make that generalazation, my parents and my christian friends parents have all been married 20+ years, to me it seems the divorce rates seem higher among the young who just seemt to jump into it on a whim, and also have sex before they are married. Sex is a gift to married couples, when it is used before then it loses its specialness and instead of feeling like you are buying a brand new beautiful car, you get stuck with an old clunker that everyone else has driven, which seems more desireable?
2006-09-07 21:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by malsvb6 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I see what you mean, but I think sexual issue is just one of the many issues for Christians to be divorced, and it's NOT the only one. As for premarital sex, it's clearly explained in the Bible. You may want to refer to it. When you mention sexual compatability, I think you'll need to try more than one person to find out who is sexually compatable, right? Within a wedlock, that's just impossible; otherwise, there wouldn't be a term called "adultery". RIght?
2006-09-07 21:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by prudence z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isn't really an answer, but I wonder if there is any difference and what it is btwn Christian divorce/remarriage rate and nonChristian. Of course not all Christians stay virgins till marriage - not by a long shot. So I guess the question is whether people who are virgins when they marry have higher divorce rates than others.
2006-09-07 21:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ms 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After the flame dies down, in the end when you are old, you want to be with someone you actually like, not just for sex. You don't have to have sex to know you love the person you are with. Life throws crap at you, and in the end, even if you've grown apart for some reason or other, there will still be that comfortable feeling you have with one another. Having other activities in common helps alot.
2006-09-07 21:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Lets see you can get yourself a case of STD'S that ajax can't wash off.
It may cause that part of your body you want to share with all those other lovers to fall off or be filled with uzzzes stuff for the rest of you DUMB *** LIFE!
2006-09-07 21:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by yechetzqyah 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
HAHA another christian/non-christian debate
As for your question, everyone in school is taught that abstinence is the safest way to stay healthy and enjoy your marriage more. But everyone is human and they do what they want.
2006-09-07 21:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by cubanzgar 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
it's not all about the sex..someone who marrys a guy and then divorces him because his penis was to small or something is stupid...
2006-09-07 22:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by manda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you truly love somebody.... and you've never had sex with anybody else.... you have nothing else to compare it to, and you tend to be happy with what you have. It's the experimentation that tends to lead to unhappy marriages, people always wanting "something else."
2006-09-07 21:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I'm just gonna sit back in my little fuzzy chair and watch all the action. I'm sure you're gonna get some hatemail, and sweetie, I apologize for the idiots in advance.
2006-09-07 21:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by Becca 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋