I know a guy who gets mad just because I desire romance before I can be in the mood... when he is the one who was so mean. He actually said that was selfish of me. amazing. only way id be selfish is if I DONT find a new man quick!
2006-09-07 13:50:19 · 20 answers · asked by safarlsun33 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What is the price tag that you put on romance?
2006-09-07 13:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1 - However much romance there is in a relationship, it usually goes down after marriage. If there isn't enough now, then you will be starving for it later.
Rule#2 - Find a guy that is trainable. If he cares, he will at least make an effort. If he is willing to learn, then you can have fun teaching him.
Rule#3 - You are right. Sex is the icing on the cake, not the main course. My guess is there is too much TV. He can either have Prime Time or Prime Rib. Get rid of the distractions and if that doesn't work, get rid of him.
2006-09-07 13:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be so quick to dump this guy. He's got many good qualities:
- He likes you
- He understands you pretty well
- He knows what he wants
- He can express what he wants
- He can express what he wants to you
If I were you I'd fight to keep him.
Some other facts for you to consider:
- Most guys hate romance and "getting in the mood"
- If you want romance 100% of the time he's right, you are selfish and demanding
Why not negotiate with him...you get romance some of the time, he gets his quickie the rest of the time. Compromise is what relationships are all about.
2006-09-07 13:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are various extremely romantic thoughts that haven't any intercourse in any respect. I consistently concept that Jane Eyre has between the main romantic of love thoughts in it. Persuasion via Jane Austen is yet another novel with an extremely astonishing romance. an extremely good romance desires a achievable love tale with characters whose emotions for another go way previous the actual. there is great pastime in Jane Eyre, yet no intercourse. i think of a few romance writers upload intercourse scenes just to titillate the reader, no longer by way of fact it honestly provides something to the tale. a number of the superb romances of all time seem those the place the characters have a connection to a minimum of one yet another that procedures the religious besides as which contain the actual allure and psychological compatibility. Wuthering Heights is the variety of e book, with a connection it relatively is greater suitable than existence itself.
2017-01-05 03:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not willing to romance you a little in order to put you in the mood,...then he is being the selfish one girl. If he really cared for you, he would do the romance thing regardless,...good luck
2006-09-07 14:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you guys obviously aren't very compatible. look, sex today is different from anything you've thought. Romance is a hard thing to find. The fact that you guys argue over such a thing is not a good sign. Because of this I can't really answer your question, but good luck.
2006-09-07 13:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by (l)SR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll climb back up on my soap box for a moment here -- this is what happens when we decide to have sex without being in a serious relationship! Now days girls have no problem providing guys with the casual sex they want. Trust me, there is no better sex than married sex! Find a man who is willing to wait, and is willing to commit himself to a monogamous relationship with you! God bless!
2006-09-07 13:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new man. It's not worth arguing with any guy who does not understand the concept that a little romance will only serve to heighten the sexual experience for himself (as well as you).
2006-09-07 13:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that he wants to make love to you BECAUSE you had a fight. It's his way of giving you something special and personal to make up for the fight. If you reject him, you're rejecting his attempt to make things better.
Somehow you have to find common ground on this. If he wants to have sex after a fight, try making something romantic out of it.
You could run a bath and climb in with him. Talk it out. Then make love.
Or, you could say, "I need a massage first." Talk during the massage. Then make love.
Don't forget, "make up" sex can be fantastic.
2006-09-07 13:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not selfish of u to want some substance in your relationship before sex , i agree with the other answers dump him ....
2006-09-07 13:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋