!!!!!!!the best guy friend or shift focus!!!!!!!!¿?

Question

ok theres this guy
henry: best guy friend for 4 years now, we're seniors in highschool... connected from the start... went out twice b4 last time was last summer... talk everyday... hang everyday... tell each other everything... know everything about each other... going out again may lead to complications with our friends (other ppl that like him etc.) he's hott ... we tend to want each other... but other times we don't.... i guess our attraction to each other depends on the day
options?

getting back together is a possibility but it doesn't seem that good

ignore it? but i find a twist in my stomach everytime he's around other girls flirting kinda or just being friendly

just hook up? friends with benefits? and keep it on the dl cuz of ppl


suggestions?

every time we've gone out we get to be even closer friends....

and we are talking about it, he's even admitted that he wants me as his girlfriend sometimes, and other times he just sees me as a friend.. and i feel the exact same.. its like one day we feel one way and different tomorrow

Answer 1

girl do what you think is right...
it soundslike even if you do the friends with benifits that you are still gonna get hurt sounds to me like you really really like this guy...
so be carefull.... also what the heck does anyone else have to do with you too hooking up? who the F cares about other people if it is the two of you then its the two of you not the whole of the universe and the two of you....
you need to sit down and have a little chit chat with your buddy by the sounds of it... before you go doing anything talk to him and see what he feels....
you may find your answer in his....

Answer 2

Friends w/ benefits NEVER works. If it didn't work out the last two times you went out, it probably won't work this time, especially if it's a "day to day" relationship. That knot? It's just some left over emotions from the last time around. Just stay friends, it sounds like thats what ya'll are best at, continue that. A relationship at this point probably wouldn't be the best thing.

Answer 3

talk to him about it . . .he's a teen age guy, so this will be hard to get him to really talk serious ( they way we females want to).

but really talk it out . .weight the pros and cons.
consider that college is a year away. are you going to the same university, or staying in the same city/state??
if not, how are you gonna deal with long distance??

you have been friends with him too long to blow it on senior year being a great hump fest, and then going off to college to only come home at christmas feeling awkward when he brings some chick named cindy home.


either way, good luck. and don't do friends with benefits . . . it doesn't work, not even for most adults; let alone high schoolers who have to deal with the gossip folks.

Answer 4

remain friends.. friends w/benefits is not all it's cracked up to be cause eventually one might catch feelings.. u just admitted ur jealous when he's around other girls, take that as a que to just be friendly..

now if u and him get together and it doesn't work out then u just lost a good friend...

but it might work out and it might not but it's ur decision, but it might be a lil easier if u speak to him about it...

Answer 5

just hook up and see what happens from there

Answer 6

i'd say go with your gut feeling, which would probably be to date him.

Answer 7

*friends with benefits*