My whole family are Christians. My parents never went to dances to speak of, when they were in high school. So I never really have talked to them about it. In fact I've never really talked to them about girlfriends and stuff, I started to in 1st grade but got shied away when they kinda teased me a little bit. Ever since then I've denied having an interested in girls, now I am a Freshman, and dances and girls are a really big thing and definitely interest me. But I dont know how to really bring up such a subject, without feeling very awkward and embarassed. The dance I want to take this girl to is coming up, and I don't have the guts to ask my parents. It would be better if I could drive, but thats still a year away, so my parents are going to have to pick her up and everything :(. Please if you been in a situation like this tell me how to open up the conversation and convince your parents.
2006-09-07 13:08:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks everyone, this advice is really making me feel more confident, and not so shy from asking them.
2006-09-07 13:16:14 · update #1
I don't think you'll need to convince them. Just ask them. They were teenagers once, they know there are dances (whether or not they decided to go was their choice) and they'd probably be more surprised if you *didn't* want to go!
(and if they don't like you going out with a girl, ask them if they'd prefer you go out with a guy ;) lol That should do it. (this is assuming Christians have a sense of humor)
Have a really good time at your dance :)
2006-09-07 13:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Avid 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try getting a few friends to go as a group. You know, 2-3 guys, 2-3 girls, and ask mom or dad if they can be one of the parents that drive some of you to the dance. That way, it doesn't have to be a date in your parent's eyes, it's a bunch of friends going to a dance.
You might try doing the same thing but go to a movie or the mall. Do it before the dance if there's time, though. That way your parents have seen you go somewhere with this group of friends, and it's not such a big deal. Don't lie about anything here, of course. Nothing - absolutely nothing - will destroy your credibility with your parents faster than that. And I'm a parent, so you can trust me on that one.
Also, pick a place and time that they'll pick you up after, and be there waiting for them. You'll build even more credibility and trustworthiness in your parent's eyes.
So work up your courage, and ask. Your parents are kinda aware of the whole boy-girl thing by now, so it won't be a total shock to them. Besides, if you don't ask and just sit home, you'll be unhappy. But if you ask them, then the odds are a whole lot better that you'll get to go. It won't happen unless you ask.
2006-09-07 13:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents told me that they would let me start dating at 16. They didn't know how much I wanted to when I was like 13-14-15, and had no idea how much I resented them for having said "16" when I was like 12. I hardly ever got a date but unnecessarily sneaked around whenever I did.
Just mention that there is a dance coming up, and it will probably move right on from there. If they don't move it, then YOU move it.
I mean, the worst thing they can say is "No", and if you don't ask, it seems like you won't have any chance to go at all.
2006-09-07 13:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 10:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the dance is coming up and ask them if they think you should go. They are bound to ask you if you have someone in mind. The conversation should flow naturally from there.
2006-09-07 13:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are generally more understanding about this particular area than they sometimes let on, Christian or not. I'd guess that if you just come out and ask them honestly, they'll probably be open and willing to discuss it. And the more you communicate with them, the more they'll trust you and be willing to give you more freedom.
2006-09-07 13:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that same thing happened to me and still does when a guy asked me out i couldnt help but to accept and to tell my parents was hard bc my dad and mom is strict when it comes around that subject but ask them how do they feel a round girls and start to build from that and from there you will see the worst they can say is no
2006-09-07 13:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by straightedge>sxe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a dad and have six children including a set of twin boys 14 yrs old i am a strong christian and i love my boys I would Hope that if they had this on there minds they would talk to me about it and they have they were scared at first cause i teased them about this issue. 99% of everything we worry about turns out to be nothing to be worried about, if you think of it like that you have waisted alot of time being affraid so talk to them and tell them how you feel.
2006-09-07 13:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by garry d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just go up to your parents and say something along the lines of: mom dad? you know how there are dances at school? well i really want to take this girl to one of the dances cause i really like her but i cant drive over and pick her up so if its alright with you could you drive me over to pick her up and drop us off at the dance?
2006-09-07 13:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by Colin Night 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i lied whenever i dated just to avoid my mom's investigation of my life. ask a friend if you and your gf can ride with him to the dance. that way it looks like you are just going there to hang out with your friends. some parents dont want to be ready for their kids to grow up so they overeact to their kids dating, so you just have to do it without them knowing.
2006-09-07 13:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋