Help????? please?

Question

I need some help.
My mother works and she NEVER cooks, do laundry, etc, she doesn't knows how to. My dad, he also works and he's the one who cooks, etc..
My mother doens't really cares about me & my brother, she thinks that money solves everything.
And she is having an affair with a HUGE (really fat) guy who is in Canada (We live in Venezuela). She says that she's the one that brings all the money to the house (which is not true) and that my father has a bad control (which is not true) of the money because she says that there should be more. And yes, there should be more and you know what happens to it? She has it in a bank account in the U.S.A.. Only she knows how much is in there. She uses that money to fly to Canada and to buy gifts to the guy and his family. I know al this and more, but I shouldn't know about it (and she doesn't knows I know), my brother knows too and my father too.

And to make things EVEN WORSE today we went to the mall to buy the things for school, and there were no dark blue pants, so we went to buy the uniform shoes. When we got there(by the way, I have been mad at her since days ago because she said to my brother that I manipulated him, that I was lazy,etc), I didn't liked the shoes, they were uncomftible so she started saying that I don't appreciate anything that she does. So I told her I was leaving. She started YELLING at me in front of all of the people in the mall making a huge scene, telling me that she was going to call the police.


Wat can I do??

The info I got it from my dad AND I SAW THE PROOFS.
She has enemys (because she treats her employes really bad and some customers too) who e- mailed my dad the info.
Also they mailed the info to her and she irresponsibly left the printed mails on the table

Also she the ONLY contact she had on Skype (to talk computer to computer) was the guy's.

Thank You ALL for your answers.

Answer 1

gees, you guys are in big trouble... immediately get counseler, all of you espacially your mom. She needs to know that all of you guys know. Your dad needs to get up and have a ball to tell your mother to start being a wife not a... well, I don't know how old you are but she's not being a lady how's that. He needs to have a gut and not being a whimp and let your mom walks all over him that way. If the love, the respect, and the moral isn't there anymore... you guys should let her go and be the woman she wants to be. Your parents should get divorce, so all of you can be happy. You don't need your parents to be together to be a family. My parents were divorce, I'm fine. As long as you know what works for you and your family... make it work.

Don't give up just yet, hang in there and I hope you all for the best. Be very supportive to you dad because he needs it the most and don't let him snap!!! He might not being able to control himself if he gets fed up. You mother needs God and she needs to go to church instead of Canada!!!

Answer 2

All l can say is l really feel sorry for you guys but especially your dad . It must tear his heart out knowing what is going on. Why doesn't he leave your mum ? From where l am sitting she certainly does not deserve any respect from any of you. As far as the money goes if they are both working they are both contributing so who cares who earns the most that is such a miner issue. I think your mum needs a wake up call. Why dont you guys all stick together and make her aware that you all know whats going on.Tell her she is no longer welcome as a mother or wife and she can go live with her moron of a boyfriend. If that is what you guys want ofcourse otherwise l dont really know what you can do SORRY. It is a real tough one and l dont know how you guys can cope with all this.All l can say is she certainly doesn't seem to me to have any family values or morals. Treat her with the same respect she shows you all . Which in my eyes is nil. Good Luck and l really feel for you guys.Your mother makes the rest of us mothers all look like mother Teresa.

Answer 3

What you should do is PRAY to the LORD, JEHOVAH, if you believe in him, and ask him to come into your life and the lives of your Brother and Father and to touch your Mother's heart giving her the desire to want to be the best Mother and Wife on Earth.
That will mean that she doesn't want to CHEAT anymore with other men and she's sorry and won't do it again.

Tell your Dad to take you and your Brother with himself to church. Some churches have counseling where you can talk with someone about your family problems (a Family Counselor) and it really helps and doesn't cost anything.

Tell the LORD to handle the situation with your MOM and the OTHER MAN ...believe me, he will..you'll see. He doesn't want Moms and Dads seeing other Men and Women, so tell him to let his will be done.

God Bless you and I'll pray for You and your Dad and your Brother.

Answer 4

You didn't put down what you needed help with. It sounds a lot like you got your information from your dad. Remember there is always 3 sides to any story. His, Hers and the truth which usually falls somewhere in the middle.

Answer 5

Is your mom about 40 or so? Sounds like mid-life crisis to me! Similar thing happened in my family, but my parents are both really confrontational, so memories of my teenage-hood were unhappy ones of my mom and dad screaming at each other. I don't know what else to tell you except I hope your parents don't live unhappily together for years like mine did.

Answer 6

I would speak with your father and tell him that it is time to leave her and that you and your brother will go too. He deserves to be with a woman who respects him. The three of you will have a great life once you are away from her.

Answer 7

would you call your mother and dad and your together have a family meeting . and know how to do next .

Answer 8

Call her out on it.

Answer 9

What's the question?

Answer 10

TELL YOUR FATHER TO LEAVE HER. HE DOESN'T DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT AND NEITHER DO YOU OR YOUR BROTHER.