What Does It mean When A Guy Says This?

Question

There is this guy that I do not know that I am attracted to. His friend has said two things that i'm not sure why he keeps saying. One night he said "he has a gf, but things aren't going well". I know what that means, it's pretty obvious. Then 2 nights later he says to me "He has a Girlfriend........Kinda". What do guys normally mean when they say this? Now keep in mind this is the friend of the guy I'm attracted to saying this. Is he trying to hint for me to go after him?

I plan on IF anything were to happen, i'm staying away until he resolves if he is going to stay with his girlfriend or not. I don't want to be a deciding factor in this AT all.

So the question just is guys, IF you were to say this. What would YOU mean by it...........

The friend has been friends with him for 8 years. I'm 26 and been through my fair share of players trust me! However his friend seems to be boasting him. I don't get the impression he is flirting with me at all honestly.

Also I don't know either one of these guys if they were a player they could easily just say "Nope he has no girlfriend".

Sorry new to this.....

Ok this guy KNOWS i'm attracted to him. Sorry I didn't mean to leave that out. His friend accidently found out(long story)and told his friend and this guy kept looking at me and smiling.

See this guy plays softball up at this local bar. I was trying to work up the nerve to talk to him last Wed, however he left and I was a coward. I was venting to a stranger and well the stranger happen to know this guys friend/teammate of 8 years.
Anyways, he doesn't flirt with me at all, the friend that is. He invited me up to there game the next day, said you should go find him and talk to him, and said wasn't he more smilely today than wed.(this was the day he found out I was attracted to him.) So this guy isn't a mutual friend, I know neither of them. He had just said they have been dating since last year, but things haven't been going well. I figured it meant more "there relationship is on the rocks".
I guess i'm more determined on this guy only because he is the first guy in 8 years to hold my attraction. Sad I know.....anyways I mean it when I say I would STAY away until all was clear. In fact, I don't know this guy. I would only want to get to know him first go.

Answer 1

Thats a werid one, but personally if he said He has a Girlfriend and thats it then definetly he is telling you to stay away but he threw that kinda in there, i think what hes trying to say is that his friend has a gf but you would be a better match to him, so go on and "hit on him",

However there are many problems with having a middle man, communicating, go straight to him and ask him "Hey are you seeing anyone" or something like that, much better way, and less confusion

Answer 2

I wouldn't say that to you because I'd probably be a lot more straight out about it. It means a lot. In a nutshell, I'm a guy. I've hung out with most of my peers and hopefully morphed into something a little more honorable. We're guys. We're also no good. Every one of us. Some of us make an effort to keep down the nature. Girls can be pretty ruthless too. So it's kinda a jungle out here. The fact you're even considering a guy who is to any degree involved doesn't speak well of you. It makes you the vulture hanging in the tree. So whatever happens, with this guy or any other who is throwing out these kinds of signals, means somebody might get hurt at some point. Too, you'll probably deserve what you get. You come out straight. Clean. No bullshit. There's something there or there isn't. That's where divorces come from. Broken homes. Children with dubious parents without purpose or direction in life. Separate Hollywood romance from actual real life. It'll be easier. People date for various and sundry reasons. Love seems to come after lust. Not the other way around. In a sense it's okay to lust if you're married and are still wild about each other. That's rare. Very rare. I think you already know the answer. Consider your honor, and don't move on impulse, boredom, peer pressure, or what you think you're supposed to accomplish in life. Nine times out of ten I respect a woman more than I do a man. If we have trashy broads in this country, it was probably a man who started them on that road. And I use the term ' man ' loosely. It takes quite a lot to be one. That's why I like my own company as opposed to being badly accompanied. Couples? Alone ain't bad compared to desperate. Hope this addresses your query.

Answer 3

I agree with T Time. Also, he may be trying to hook up girlfriend number 2 before breaking up with GF#1. Don't go after him. If he wants you, he can break up with her and then come after you. Why is his friend talking to you about it? He is probably trying to feel you out. Don't tell his friend anything anymore. Be a mystery. If he's really interested and things really aren't going well, maybe he will finally break up. But don't count on it.

If he does come after you, just be sure they are actually really broken up, because I just had this happen recently where a guy told me he had just come out of an eight and a half year relationship. I had been to his house and everything. Three months later, a girl calls and they are still living together! He had put her things away when he brought me there! Fortunately, she knew by what I said that I had NO idea about her and thought he was single. I broke it off with him right away. But why didn't he break it off with her? He went straight home to her. Haven't heard from him, so he must still be living with her. Hence, what T-Time said: Has a gf he will cheat on but not break up with.

STAY AWAY.

Answer 4

Could be two reasons:

First, as you surmise, he is telling you to go for it. A "kinda" girlfriend is usually a female friend of convenience, not attached, I guess you could say.

Second, the "friend" telling you this could have designs on his friends girlfriend, and is instigating you to get into the thick of things so he can go after the other girl.

You say you do not know this other guy. Why not try to get to know him, and at least be friends if not boyfriend/girlfriend? Then at least you will know if there is a chance.

Back in my younger days, when I was working at a radio station, one evening a girl who I was attracted to dropped by. She made it clear that she was seriously involved with another guy, but felt I could handle being just friends. Even though I was strongly attracted to her, we get by as friends, and that's been more than 30 years now. And to show how impressed I was with that evening, I remember she had on white short shorts, a purple blouse that really set off her beautiful red hair, and smelled of honeysuckle. A memorable evening, but one with a friend.

Answer 5

It means the same thing as if a girl says it.

Yeah, I have been going out with someone on a regular basis. She may be nice and all but she really don't float my boat. (She could be high maintenance, shallow, to clingy, not clingy enough, not into premarital sex. Will have sex but wants a committed relationship in return... and the list goes on.) Having her around is better than nobody at all. I would give her the send off when someone better comes along.

It could also mean, "I know you like him, and my friend is a real heel when it comes to girl friends. You could probably have a chance with him but I don't want to see you hurt."

I guess it means you should ask your mutual friend point blank. Guys usually do much better with pointed questions than hints. Better yet, ask the one you want to go out with. General rule of thumb, if they aren't wearing a ring, they are fair game.

Answer 6

It means exactly what they say. Sometimes guys play around behind their girl's back (c'mon you know that!) He may have had an argument with her, or she went out of town to a family reunion and he's playing around. I met this guy who had the same story--turns out he never broke up with his g/f--he was just lying to see if he could hook up with me.
Anyway, stay away from the mind-gaming jerk. Even if he does break up with his g/f--he'll need time to let go of the baggage that accumulated from that relationship. Throw this one back into the water and go fishing again. It's not worth your time and energy to chase after someone who is obviously playing games with you and his own girlfriend.

Answer 7

As a guy this is obvious... Guys are pigs, I admit it.
What he is saying is that he has a girlfriend but he'd be willing to hook up with you. He is waiting to see a possitive response from you before he cheats. He wont make the first move to break up with her because she is his booty call.
If you were to hook up with him it will be the same way. To you he would say I love you. To other girls he would say I have a girlfriend sort of. Or Kinda... To leave that end open for the next booty to come around...
To pigs like this .. The old saying the grass is always greener....

Answer 8

Ask your self this, have you sent any signs to this guy? If not then you need to so you can get some better feedback. But from the info we have here it sounds like he is interested in you but hes being a wuss and going through his friend to get to you instead of being direct. Maybe he is shy, but as you know guys are suposed to make the first move.

Answer 9

Like a guy said above me
he wants to have his cake and eat it too.

This actually happened to me, and in the end he just went back with her. So to be honest try to make absolutely sure everything between the gf and him are okay before you get into this.

Answer 10

Its the small print rule. It means he is in an actual relationship but doesnt mind cheating as long as you dont mind or tell.
Its called the small print rule because when you find out he was in a relationship/married/engaged you cant complain or say anything because he kinda told you.