This question is directed towards men, please. There is this guy at work that looks me up and down with a smile on his face every time he sees me, winked at me once and has called me honey several times. He asked me two weeks ago if I had a boyfriend and I told him no. He knows I like him because I told him so a year ago. Problem is he is in a position above me so we have had very few interactions since then. Until two weeks ago! For some reason, he has started smiling at me every time he sees me, saying "How did I know you were going to come in here?" when I would walk in his office to ask him something, touch my arm or fingers whenever he passed me something, turn my way when speaking to me. Generally about two of the above mentioned happen a day. We've never talked outside of work. Why is he acting this way all of a sudden? Can men reach a point where they just can't hold back anymore and eventually go after the one they want? We are both in our early thirties. Thanks!
2006-09-07 12:30:29 · 7 answers · asked by jewels 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After a while, once we've finally convinced ourselves how much we like a girl, we get the nerve to try to speed things up. This can happen in a lot of ways. For him, it sounds like the professionalism in the workplace was keeping him at bay. Now, he doesn't want to waste any more time pursuing being with you. He's come to a conclusion all men do at least once in our lifes: life is too short to play nice. I can empathize with this guy a bit, too.I'm in a position with a girl much in the same way, we're in semiprofessional circles awhere a big social blunder/fiasco could have wide reaching bad consequences, so I've been really cautious. With every passing day though, every time I see her I just want to go nuts with her right there in public. Treating a guy like him or me like the way you ladies are is a sure-fire way to bring the bad boy out of the nice guy friend/co-worker. Congrats: he's yours for the taking, so don't waste any time letting him know its time to have a real relationship.
Alternatively, keep this up. What's happening is a very natural courting. You work together, see eachother often, have the same routines, you two are getting to know the other by just being there next to them. I hope this comparison doesn't hurt my explanation but its like stalking, but not forced, not creepy. You KNOW the person's there and what they want. So is there any reason to say anything? But now you've taken notice, and trying to keep this going would just be toying with him, something we really, REALLY don't like. So I would recommend just being straightforward with him and not pissing him off.
The bottom line is YES, even nice guys who play by the rules have a boiling point where nature overrides nurture and they just go for you. This is a really natural attraction and you should just go with your guts on this, because its almost all he's going on now. It sounds like you want to be with him and he wants to be with you, so go for it!
Additionally, I had no idea women took notice when a guy turns to speak to them. Is it really that big of a signal? If so, i'll be sure to be mindful of it later.
2006-09-07 13:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by valoriousblue777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just very flirty by nature. If you really want to know what he thinks of you, then you should try to spend time with him outside of the work setting. Doing that will let him know that you're still interested and may lead to actual discussion about the two of you. Suggest a movie - and be direct. Men like that.
2006-09-07 13:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by jupiterclash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see the situation here ..
Well, It depends on the person. Some men can't hold back too much, and others are slick and not pushy. The smart ones are those who take their time knowing the girl, with the right attitude and good impression and finally falling with the good words.
But the main point is, Girls have to be responsive .. if you ignore his winks and his good words, they will think that you are not intrested. So help the guy out if he means it.
Good Luck ;)
2006-09-07 12:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Duda .. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go tell him you love him, ask him out, ... before someone else does.
A man can hold back his desires for a woman he's attracted to for approximately 1 year. It varies and depends on many things but the average is 1 year.
2006-09-07 12:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Vendetta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't know what to say to you about getting together maybe he feels it is awkward. If you like him, why not ask him for coffee after work or something like that, or hint to him that you want him to ask you to do something. Men can be like this or maybe he has another girl but likes you too and doesn't know what to do.
2006-09-07 12:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man (a mature man) can hold back his desire for ever and a day, if need be.
2006-09-07 12:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is probably the reason.
2006-09-07 12:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋