Me and my babyfather are not together but we talked every now and then and we trying to work things out but i am most concerned how he playing mind games with me and i always been testing to see if i am dating someone else i am sick and tired why is he doing this when we not even together anymore i need serious answers please ???
2006-09-07 12:25:44 · 20 answers · asked by cowanelmo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A) He's either a control freak and doesn't want anyone else to have you or:
B) He's genuinely concerned about you and your baby's welfare.
Overall, if he was only doing this out of concern he wouldn't need to play mind games with you. If you are trying to work things out then he shouldn't need to worry about it. Obviously he doesn't trust you to be honest with and to tell him if you were dating someone new. If he strongly feels that you cannot be honest with him then you two have a serious communication problem and without great communication its nearly impossible for a relationship to flourish.
Have you flat out asked him yet why he is so concerned about whether or not you are dating someone else? That would be the first step to find out for sure what is really going on.
2006-09-07 12:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by katie_ray22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lady you should turn your back on that man. If he's always checking up on you to see who you're with and trying to play games with you ---then he's seeing other women and just not in it for the long haul. You have more than yourself to think about now with that beautiful Baby...he can still see and help support his child, but YOU deserve better. If you ask me, YOU ALREADY HAVE THE BEST PART OF HIM (THAT DARLING CHILD) and if he can't be real and not play games you don't need him leaving muddy footprints all over your heart.
2006-09-07 12:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men just want to be the only one in your life even if they are out screwing every one or thing in sight. Why would you want to be back with someone who plays games with you? If he is a decent man he can be a good father and not be with you. Find someone who does not play games and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. When you feel yourself weakening remind yourself of why you broke up with him it the first place.
2006-09-07 12:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still married [assuming you were], he may be trying to glean information that would give him a better case against you in the divorce proceedings. However, either way, simply tell him, "Sorry, but that is no longer any of your business." If he persists, by saying it is because of the child, let him know that the child has nothing to do with it, because you will be a responsible parent either way.
2006-09-07 12:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he does not trust you or jealous. If you want to be with him this is something you both need to work on (Does he have a reason not to trust you? If it is jealousy then he need to work on that) If you are not planning on getting back together then tell him its none of his business and do not even respond to his questions. Mind games are a type of abuse. You might want to reconsider what type or relationship this is going to be.
2006-09-07 12:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are not together it is none of his business whether you are dating anyone else. Until he agrees to make a commitment, your life is your own do to what you wish.
I can understand you wanting to be with your baby's father, for your baby's sake but remember, if you are not going to be happy with him (and he seems like he might be a bit controlling) then that isn't good for the child either.
2006-09-07 12:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you are trying to "work things out" but it does not sound like it. You accuse him of playing mind games and you are sick and tired of what he is doing. Why are you putting up with this crap??? Stop acting so needy, sweetie......tell him to take a hike and do your own life. And, stop having sex when you are not married.....you don't need any more babies......you need to fix yourself!
2006-09-07 12:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump the sucker, since you two are not together he shouldn't be playing mind games with you. This only shows how inmature and and insecure he really is. I'm talking out of experience.
2006-09-07 12:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by rom-e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes probably not that interested in you anymorw but still wants to be a part of your childs life. My advice is to just be friends with him and keep him part of your life for the childs sake. Go find someone who you truely love and returns that love. That is the only way you will ever be happy
hope this helps!
2006-09-07 12:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by bamf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i believe that if you play mind games back with him then you might get more info than expected, but also he's doing this to you because he really like's you and don't want no body to have you but him.
2006-09-07 12:31:56 · answer #10 · answered by FINISHA A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋