I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and we live together. He so controlling that whatever I do I have to ask for permission 1st and of course everything I want to do he says NO... I want to be happy. I miss all my friends and family, I don't talk to anyone but co workers only when I'm at work. Its so hard to leave him from everything that I have gained from being with him. What should I do? I am scared that maybe one day he just might go out of control on me. No he do not abuse me! Advice please...
2006-09-07 12:19:16 · 8 answers · asked by Laney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You mean over protective right? You sound socially immature and that's probably why he is thr way he is with you ... he's taken on the responsibility for being your second father. You need to take some classes at a community collage. English would be good.
You'll meet new people too. Tell your boyfriend that you already have a father and you don't need another one.
2006-09-07 12:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to leave, I suggest you leave. Firstly, what I would do is organise to meet him after work in a public place. During the day when he is at work, move your stuff out.
Then when you meet him tell him calmly that you are leaving him and the reasons for it. Because you are in a public place you are safe. It might be handy to have some friends nearby so that when you are over, they can walk you out of the location. Hopefully you'll be able to move somewhere where there are other people, like with your parents.
You don't owe him anything. He has not respected you in allowing you friends or even a mind of your own, having to ask permission for anything.
Good luck.
2006-09-07 12:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all plan your escape, pack a bag and hide it somewhere he cant find it. Next tell a co-worker.when he is at work or out then this is the time to run, but make sure you know where the nearest woman's refuge is. when you are safe there call the police and get a restraining order against him. you need to do this as hes a bully and he will always have control over you if you don't stand up to him. be safe and i hope this helps
2006-09-07 12:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have an overprotective boyfriend. You have a control freak for a b/f. Why is it necessary to ask HIS permission to do something you want to do. What right does he have to say NO? He's already an abuser. He is isolating you from your friends and family. I don't know what you have gained from being with him, but whatever it is, it's not worth giving up your self-esteem and independence for. Do your best to get away from him.
2006-09-07 12:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sarah is right. You need to leave and that is a good way to do it. Your boyfriend is a disturbed individual. In an equal relationship, you don't have to ask permission to do things. Please get out as soon as you can.
2006-09-07 12:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be physically abusing you, but he sure as hell is mentally abusing you. If there are no kids, just go off to work one day and never go back.
2006-09-07 12:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mental abuse is against the law too. I hope you get help.
2006-09-07 12:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by want2wild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow honey.. Uhh.. talk to him about it if you havent and leave one day, scare him be like Im outta here
go on Maury show
let him see what he lost and leave
2006-09-07 12:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by GirlNextDoor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋