He is VERY overprotective and he wont let me or my sister do anything. But I found someone special, and I want my dad to know without it being a problem. What should I do?
2006-09-07 12:17:19 · 32 answers · asked by Libby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 16 years old
2006-09-07 12:39:31 · update #1
Omgosh Libby
You are just going to have to tell your dad you have a friend
and I can tell you right now
If your boyfriend looks like a wild thing
your father will scare him half to death
Wow
what to do is right
try introducing him first and be sure you tell your friend
he is a guinea pig because he is the first guy to meet your dad
You have to prepare him for the worst
and most of all Pray and I do mean pray
Simply ask God to send His holy Angels to minister to
your daddy and have him calm when you approach him
2006-09-07 12:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by Queen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will not change his mind, by father was like that or made ever worst. I did not have a boyfriend tell i almost terned 19 my sister was bad with boys she hide from my father all the boyfriends she had at the end she got pregnant at the age of 15 by 19 she had 2 kids, me i am 21 about to turn 22 in November no kids still going to school and i just go engaged. My sister after having her 2 child has been try en to change her life is hard on her now with 2kids at the age of 24. I thank my dad for been very strike with us maybe my sister felt it was wrong at that time but now she dose not. It also gave me time to see what i wanted from a man I found the right one and i love him, you are young you will go threw a lot of those guys.
2006-09-07 12:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by Classica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it depends on how old you are. If you're 18 then your dad can't stop you from dating anyway. But if you're under that then it's kind of up to you and yoru dad. The whole dating scene is kind of different, and parents see dating in different ways then we do. If you want him to think you're mature enough then talk to him and ask him if he'll start treating you more like you're an adult. After all you aren't six anymore ^_~
Also have your guy hang around the house a lot, let your dad get to know him. If he likes him after awhile then he probably won't have much of a problem with trusting you with him.
2006-09-07 12:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a young teenager, say 13, your physical growth outstrips your mental handling capability. When you become 18, you will be more balanced, and when you are a young adult, like 24, your view of things will also change.
It may be difficult for you to understand but young people wants to grow up fast, and the older people wants to remain young.
Try to listen to your dad carefully and understand exactly what is his concern. Then see if you can discuss and work something out that may be a compromised solution. You need to be patient.
Teenagers are thinking: Freedom
Parents are thinking: Safety.
2006-09-07 12:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by ideaquest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunetely, if you're a good girl you have to follow his rules, if you're a bad girls then it looks like you have to break his trust. Dads are protective, all of them, because they think that all lads are thinking the same that they were at that age, there's no getting around UNLESS you start having male friends, but only as friends. Maybe bring some friends over a few girls and a few guys to watch TV or something, then he can begin to see that not all lads want 1 thing.
2006-09-07 12:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends really on your age, if your 10 or 12 then i can understand, but 14 or 15 or older it is time you started dating. Bring him over and jsut act normally, he is a friend as well as a boyfriend so you know hang out and jsut tone down the kissing and stuff in front of pop
2006-09-07 12:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your age. As a young adult and parent I wouldn't want my daughter dating until she is 18. She is more mature, more aware of the knowledge of different sexes, attraction and so on. I understand why my parents were so protective over me and I am very thankful. I see what happened to the other girls I hung around with who didn't have any authority over them. Yikes! Hug your dad and tell you love him. Ask your dad if your BF can come over with supervision. It seems lame but if you are serious with this guy and he is with you than only time with be benifiting.
2006-09-07 12:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dads usually love their daughters and want the best for them, whatever age they are. Also Dads know a lot more about young men and their antics.
Why not ask if you can bring him around to meet your parents. If you wouldn't want them to meet, you might really be saying something about how YOU regard the boy.
2006-09-07 12:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by bob s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Libby,
Main thing connected with this question is what are your intentions with this "boyfriend". Do you want him as a boyfriend by you going to the movied and hanging out. Or do you want to do more physically. Many parents don't want their children out on dates unprotected and vulnerable. Many parents are willing to give their children option. Make him come to your house for dinner or the family movie nite. Depending on your age which activities are appropriate. Don't be like 10 things i hate about you where they can't date and it makes the dad crazy. Talk to him and make it clear what you mean by "boyfriend"
2006-09-07 12:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by xxsn0w_r4v3nxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey my dad was the SAME way! You should let him know about your boyfriend and tell your boyfriend that you really want him and your dad to get along. If your dad is old fashioned like mine, he will also appreicate it if your boyfriend takes the initiave to talk to him one on one.
2006-09-07 12:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by cindy_schwenke 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋