I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months now. He was previously married, but the marriage didn't work out because she was cheating on him and they didn't get along. But here lately when I check the call history on our phone her number comes up everyday. I don't know whether I should bring it up and ask him about it or just ignore it?
2006-09-07 12:01:59 · 17 answers · asked by brandy71687 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are the calls received, made or both? One may be trying to get a hold of the other, but if they are all mainly in just one direction, the other person may not want the calls.
If there's a monthly billing, you can also check the number and length of the calls, if they are no longer shown in his phone.
Long frequent calls usually mean they are trying to put something back together again. And who is making the majority of the calls is usually the one most desirous of it happening.
People that are sneaking around, tend to conceal all evidence of it, but some are not so bright, and forget to delete phone calls made and/or received.
It is best you do not let on, as to the source of your knowledge about it, but rather, simply ask him, "I know you had a bad marriage, but I was wondering, do you ever still talk to her?" If he says no, he may be lying to protect your feelings, or to conceal something much more. By not revealing your source, you can continue to monitor the numbers.
If it continues, you can ask him again, and if he says no, you can say, "That's not what I heard." This will drive him crazy, especially if you don't reveal the fictitious source. He'll then either have to come clean [and it may still be a lie], or he will become so paranoid, he'll slip up somewhere.
2006-09-07 12:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him in a calm polite way. It's not like you were snooping around. Be up front and honest and that's the best you can do. Ask him why she calls. All in all don't worry about it he's with you and not her. My friend had a problem identical to this. her man told her that they are just trying to be friends. So my friend went with it, it was hard for her but she knew she had to let him disconnect from her on his own. Eventually the old flame got the picture that they were serious and quit calling.
2006-09-07 19:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by bellerosez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would check the time frame of when she is calling and make sure you are there when she calls. Just make a mental note and if it continues for the next couple of days then you need to raise the question not in an argumental way. IF he starts lying or denying it then I would follow your guy and move on.
2006-09-07 19:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by Queenayn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given the history, i don't think you can just ignore it. It's obviously weighing on your mind, so you should discuss it anyway.
However, be prepared in case there is a genuine reason for the calls, could there be some unfinished business?
Also, be careful how you broach it, you don't want it to look like you were snooping, this could only cause him to think that you don't trust him. Do you have any reason not to trust him?
2006-09-07 19:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by Munchkeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Block the number and if it still shows up you'll know he's calling her. Then you need to talk to him about it. He won't be able to lie about it and say she's calling him. If the calls dissappear that'll be a plus, but I'd still be suspicious. There are other phones afterall.
2006-09-07 19:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birds of a feather flock together. They are both cheaters, probably. You don't know if she cheated on him, but you DO know he is cheating on you. Sounds like they deserve each other. Get out while you can. RUN GIRL, RUN!
2006-09-07 19:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are paranoid, your gut feeling is right most of the time. We get in to trouble when we ignore our feelings and just try to make things as they aren't
2006-09-07 19:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's sneaky....you are sneaky......you are both Doomed! Why are you checking the phone record, sweetie???? If you ignor it......it will come out some day. Pack it in and move on! Do not pretend!!!
2006-09-07 19:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely bring it up , cause i wouldn't accept that she calls him everyday .if she calls him everyday that's mean there's something going on. try to talk to him and you'll see how he's going to react. good luck
2006-09-07 19:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by val88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say definently bring it up. if he is calling her it might just be beecause he misses her as a friend but u should ask him
2006-09-07 19:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋