I've had the most amazing boyfriend for the past 2 1/2 years. We get along almost perfectly. We always have. I love him to death! He's my high-school sweetheart. Everyone says we're the cutest couple they've ever met, and everyone expects us to get married in the next year or so, and I could totally see us being together forever. He's so good to me. We are about as perfect as we can be for each other. But, In the past couple months, I seem to be losing interest. I have no idea why. I don't know what to do. I've even gone on a couple other dates with other guys. (haven't "done" anything though) Its like I just don't feel attracted to him as much anymore. I don't know what I should do. Any advice? (Please don't be mean)
2006-09-07 11:54:38 · 19 answers · asked by alanna801 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Growing up might mean you are outgrowing him. Talk with him. Good luck!
2006-09-07 11:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by pixiechick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say this is so perfect, but you dated other men? COME ON NOW...IT IS NOT THAT PERFECT THEN. All relationships go through a "bored with each other" stage. Before you marry anyone, you need to decide if this is the person you want to get bored of. If you could truly see yourself with this guy forever, then you wouldn't have dated a couple other guys. Are you sure you could be faithful to this man? I think you should appreciate this wonderful thing you have going. Believe me, the grass is NOT greener on the other side of the fence. You would go through these same feelings with anyone else. ANYONE else!!!!! But, to date others is not the solution.
2006-09-07 19:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tie the knot just yet. If you feel feel that way, take a break, date some other people. You might find another true love. Or you may find he is still right for you. Either way, if you marry, your feelings for him could fade even more. That would have been a waste of time. Marriage is a long term commitment. Make sure you want to be with him for the next 50 years or more.
2006-09-07 18:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by eddie_schaap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express your feelings to your b/f. Honesty is always the best policy. Be honest about dating other people. If you keep him under deception, you'll lose him anyway and there will be hard feelings.
Attraction isn't everything. If you have dated for 2 1/2 years you should be past that stage with your b/f anyway. You are young and single so broaden your horizons.
2006-09-07 18:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High-school Sweethearts...Well you may just be in a bit of a rut with him and simply need other stimuli. Shake things up a bit with him to let him know that the same old same old is well...getting old. Do something spontaneous and fun and if he enjoys it tell him he has to come up with the next adventure. Spice it up a bit...Honesty is the best policy...let him know that you are feeling a little neglected and give him the chance to set it right.
2006-09-07 19:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dang You Said Please Don't Be Mean Well Ask Your Self If You Can Do Better, If You Can Then Screw Him, If You Cant Stay With Him For Another Year Then Re-Ask This Question And You'll Probably Get A New Answer.
2006-09-07 18:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably are losing interest. it's not fun but it does happen after a while. if you need to meet other guys then you should be strait forward about it. he won't be happy but you'll know you did the right thing. i'm guessing you're fairly young. it's important to realize that through nobodys fault, people grow apart. i guess i'm wondering if you have any other guys you're interested in? or if possibly you've seen any change in him that might cause a different feeling in you? you may not notice it right away but sometimes it can be something very simple. he gained a little weight, started dressing different, maybe he's acteing different. it might not be very noticeable but if it's there it could cause you to react differently.
2006-09-07 19:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by adman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just getting cold feet at the idea of being married to him.
Also, if he's been the only guy you've ever dated seriously, you may not like the idea of never being with another man. "Sowing your wild oats", so to speak.
I have no real advice on this matter, except that you go with your heart. Think very, very hard about it, consider all avenues, and go with the best solution.
2006-09-07 18:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to be mean, but were you on a break or something when you went on dates with other guys? Even if you didn't "do" anything with them, that's not very nice of you to do to your BF.
Do you guys not go out on dates with each other as much as you used to? If you love him, you need to talk to him about this, and figure out how to put the excitement back in your relationship.
2006-09-07 18:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by TiffanyFM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own dilima hon. You said the magic words, "I'm loosing interest in him." Maybe you actually have lost that boyfriend type of interest in him and are looking more at him as a really close friend now, someone you can count on because you know him so well. I think you should let him know your feelings, he will appreciate you more and the pain will not be as bad.
2006-09-07 19:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be strait forward I have had that exact same problem. You need to stop going out with other people if you really love him, and start a better sex life. SEX yes was the key to my answer and may be to yours. make your self more interested in it and if you like something that is done tell him and if you don't like something tell him. Also you need to stay home while he goes out it will make you miss him very much.
2006-09-07 19:00:37 · answer #11 · answered by SimplyMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋