well you see we are in a long distance relationship and it was difficult and she was thinking she needed someone close. And i really didn't want her to go at all i was pretty devastated about it. But i still have feelings for her and now she is like single and she keeps saying to me i want a bf and i really want her still. But before we where going out we where really good friends, really close friends and we had like this way of showing it and over the weekend she never used it but the last few days she did. But when we talked yesterday i felt like she was letting me back into her you know. But i don't know where i stand, i mean i really love this girl, everything about her. Although i love her as a great friend my feelings lie elsewhere. I want her as my gf. I just don't know what to do. But i don't want her to be like i need you here all the time, i want her to be committed and when i am there she will be happy. I like other girls but the one i love is her and i can't kid myself.
2006-09-07 11:49:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think she knows what she wants. she wants to have a bf, but not deal with some issues that might come along with it. If she loved someone than the distance could be over come.
Moreover you need to look at this from her point of view. Does she just want someone there when she needs them or is she really looking for something committed. Because you seem to be in deeper than her and that going to hurt you more. It seems that she just wants someone around to keep her company and prevent the loneliness! Maybe your not that filler at the moment. If she is looking for something more serious than step to her and see if you are on the same page.
It would be f-up if you didn't and someone else took your spot because you were too afraid to try.
2006-09-07 12:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by CC19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to need, but not be needy and demanding.
Ask, dont demand or plead. I have just gone right out of a bad relationship into a good one, so I am in the same territory. You have to know where you are, and what you need, and the person has to be able to understand. "Love" is general. Give clues, but leave a little mystery. Don't explain EVERYTHING, but don't be obscure, trade info, so you know, too.
You can ask where she thinks the relationship is, and then listen real hard, and ask to clear up unclear parts, and you should know where things stand.
Do some other things, other interests to, she wants a whole person, tell her some interests, let her learn, and have fun figuring a few things out.
Give and take, not all give, not all take.
2006-09-07 12:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 20:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you just explained to us you should be able to tell her. I understand that you might feel that she will still feel the same way but you'll have to let her know how much you love her and want to be with her. If she loves you as much as you love her she'll try with you to make a way for this to work out, but prepare yourself for either a good or bad answer. Either way it goes you will at least have closure.
2006-09-07 12:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by devandb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child please, you dont' know what you want, you can't have have things your way, if you love her let her go she can do better! She wants someone that is there with her, to hold her when she needs it, someone she can call on with out having to wait for him and it is a distance, it is sad! but if you love her you will be honest with her, and let her know what you are feeling. DON'T LIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
For me I think you just want her to hold on for you but you want to play the games most men play!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-07 11:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know how you feel. Then wait it out until you are able to move close with her. If it's love what you're feeling then you'll wait for her and she'll wait for you.
2006-09-07 11:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow ur in a good one there bud. Dont kno what to say just that there is Other fish in the sea.
2006-09-07 11:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by ogeepyroh_lok 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her what you told everyone else, you want her back. Also you may want to loose the rainbow background:)
2006-09-07 12:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her just what you have said here. this is what you should be saying to her. read tips on love and relationships to help you more on this site
2006-09-07 11:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would keep it as friends with benefits a long distance relationship is hard.
2006-09-07 11:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by sunflowerchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋