How do I tell my dad??

Question

I am a senior in Highschool. I have had a really bad year between my parents divorce, moving away and moving back, my grandfather passing away, and my mom leaving for months at a time with out saying. The list goes on. Depression and all the symptoms that come with have plagued me, but now I have found this guy that makes me so happy. I have never been this happy in my life. I know my dad will be jealous, but I can't just through away something like this. This guy and I are not very very close, but I know with time it will be great. I want to beable to spend time with him and not have my dad want to kill him at the same time. I am a goody goody so I can't lie. Some how I have to say something to the effect that I want to be with this guy. Please help. I am willing to hear anything.

Answer 1

congratulations on your positive feelings vs. your depression. There is a concern, however, in the fact that you are going through really tough times and perhaps more vulnerable than you would be if these problems weren't there. Be very aware of this guys intentions and that he's really there for you. It is easy to allow yourself to be led on in your cloud of negatives. Do know this, there is light at the end of the tunnel. I myself am from divorced parents and I lost like 8 relatives in a 2 yr time frame, lost my job, etc. Don't give up and don't let the depression ruin your life. Find a job/hobby or something that will bring you joy and if you feel this is a good time, then by all means, pursue your relationship and bring new meaning to the life you now own. You are alive and well in health and that is all that matters. "If you can't control it, then don't worry about it". When you are down is when you should give it your best to prove to yourself, and not to people, all that you are capable of. Enjoy life and seek the good out of it, although, sometimes it can seem like the most impossible thing to do. RE: telling your dad. Invite him out for a coffee or the like and start by letting him know how you feel about the divorce and that in the mix of all the negative, you have met someone who gives you comfort and uplift to your state of mind and emotions. It's not what you say but how you say it. Things will work out and don't forget to trust in God. Prov. 3:5,6

Answer 2

O MY GOSH! I am going through that exact same situation. I have found somebody too that makes me happy. I havent told my dad either. But this is what we need to do. First, tell your dad about your boyfriend and ask if he can come over so that all of yall can sit down, talk, and get to know each other. Maybe then your dad will see that he is a nice guy and will approve of your relationship. Then everybody will be happy. I will do the same thing. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 3

I think you should be honest and tell your dad that you are interested in this guy and that you will respect his wishes and did not want to sneak behind his back and meet up with this guy without him knowing so you are acting in a mature way by talking to your dad about it first. Maybe you and your dad can come up with some sort of agreement where you can go out with the guy once in a while if you maintain good grades and do whatever chores you have or whatever responsibilities you have around the house. You have to show your father that you are mature and that you are growing up before he will just let his baby girl go.

Answer 4

Well i'm a dad of 4. 3 girls and 2 boy. the oldest is 16. And I am divorced too. It is not easy for me because I dont get to see my kids as much as I want too. And is harder now because my oldest is also dating... Kinda the same situation you are in. It is not easy and I am jealous too. But I see how happy he makes her and I swallow my pride knowing that I have the rest of my life to see my kids. So How do you tell him? Just like your letter. Let him know you really like him, he makes you happy, And be sure to let your dad know you love him too. Good luck

Answer 5

why on Earth will your dad be jealous??? Sounds sick to me. Honey you DON'T know things will be great with time, only time knows for sure. I am willing to bet that you have clung to this guy because of everything you have gone through. I don't understand why your father would be so angry at you being happy anyhow. I think there is more to this than you are letting us know. If there is not.... go VERY slow with this relationship and just let your dad know you met someone and you think you might like him.

Answer 6

Just be honest with him
If youd dad is jealous theres a problem. Youd dad shouldn't ejalous of his daughters boyfriends.

You are a senior in high school and are probably 17 or 18 and are mature enough to make your own choices.
Just tell him.
If this guy makes his daughter happy I doubt he would be mad or anything

Answer 7

I dont understand why your dad would be jealous that you like someone. Well just have your new guy come over and meet your dad and have them get to know each other. Maybe your dad will loosen up with him. Dads can be very intimidating, but he has to realize that you are growing up and it is normal for you to have feelings for guys.

Answer 8

Any good father wants to kill the guy his daughter is interested in. you can't change that, just let him see that you are still youself and not jumping off the deep end. Your dad will worry even if you wer 53 and a grandmother.

Answer 9

If your dad thinks you are old enough to be dating, then just go out with the guy and don't make a federal case out of it. If your dad DOESN'T think your old enough to date, then you need respect his wishes, it sounds like hes the only adult who is really there for you and that deserves respect.

Answer 10

you need to be honest with yourself. If you and the guy are not really close then you shouldn't allow drama between your dad becuase of this guy. I suggest you and your father go to counseling because you have too many unresolved issues to deal with first before committing yourself to an individual. IF drama is going on now it will continue.