i mean i think its not fair that u guys have to like someone just because of attraction when someone as fat and ugly as me can be not only beautiful inside but have a good personality and still not get a bf just cuz u have to see a physical attraction.its just not fair if u ask me.
2006-09-07 11:43:33 · 19 answers · asked by john cenas girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
both .. they make a whole
2006-09-07 11:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of beauty is in how you carry yourself. No matter how you look, if you carry yourself confidently and think well of yourself it will show, and people will see you for what you think of yourself rather than how you look. There is a girl where I work who is overweight, but has huge confidence. Guys LOVE her!
And who decides what is attractive anyway? People looking for "attractive" people are just looking for someone who will improve how people see them by association. You don't want to be with someone who needs that. Take your time and find someone like yourself who is deep and real. Just stop assessing yourself as "fat and ugly" and project your inner self, and you will attract that beautiful person you deserve!
2006-09-07 18:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by The Answer Dog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, it may not be fair but it's how things work. i've always said that it's great if you can have a wonderful personality i love that, but if i'm not attracted to you physically i just can't do it. it's nothing about being unfair, it's just what good would i be to someone if i didn't find them attractive? we'd never sleep together and never be affectionate on a physical level. of course personality is better in the long run but looks get things started. and i know this is stupid to say but in all honesty there really is someone for everyone, i wouldn't woory too much about it. have a good personality and above all a sense of humor, and you WILL be fine.
2006-09-07 18:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by adman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, cheer up luv. I won't deny what you said because there are lots of guys who do only go for looks. I'm afraid that's the world, and lets face it there are plenty of girls who only go for looks too, failing that money. But I do know that not all guys are like that. Seriously, it sounds like you've had tons of bad experiences, and you havn't met somebody who looks past that.
Seriously, some of my friends ain't no zeta jones, but they're in happy relationships because they're confident inthemselves and they don't **** of nobody. Why would you want to be with a guy who's only concern is looks. It's strange, but a lot relationships simply disintegrate because there is no common ground, 'yeah she was hot to begin with but she was complete bore'. Personally, after a while I don't even see the face anymore, it's like they could have a huge mole on the side of their face and I wouldn't recognise it.
Just keep your chin up, and never, under any circumstances look down on yourself because once you do, you give permission for everybody else to. Just be confident and best of look with finding 'the' guy :)
2006-09-07 18:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Joe_Floggs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both come into consideration. I can be physically attracted to a woman, but hate her personality so it would never work out, and the same might be true for ugly women. I could love their personality and hate their looks. They are both equally important.
2006-09-07 18:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by zooba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personality - because at some point your gunna age and you looks are gunna go ! so i would rather be with someone i enjoy being with who i can talk to and do all things with and am happy , also i love my wife when we met she weighed 220 pounds but i loved her for "who she is" then she wanted to get healthy and she has lost the pounds for exercises and eating right now shes 130 pounds shes happy with herself and I'm happy because she's happy ill love her when her looks go away too because i can have conversation with her and fun no matter what , looks only go so far if your a shallow person , yea we all like to see beauty but a beauty with no brains is about the same as having a blowup doll
2006-09-07 18:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by Duane G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No amount of beauty can overcome a bitchy, selfish, or uncaring personality. In a serious relationship, you will spend a lot more time talking, playing, working and negotiating than you will having sex. Smart, kind, funny, caring women are much better at those things. And, they make better lovers too.
2006-09-07 18:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to answer that personality & compatibility are the most important things to me. I would also add that there does need to be a physical component for the relationhip to work. If I am not physically atracted to a woman I simply am not interested. I know that this sounds shallow but it is just plain fact.
2006-09-07 18:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by vince R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personality is more important. I hate boring people not matter how attractive they are. Nothing is a bigger turn off than a boring girl with no personality.
2006-09-07 19:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by azza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personality, definately....
All the looks in the world won't help keep a relationship going long-term... cuz sooner or later, he's gonna get bored with your looks, if you don't have a brain and personality to keep him interested.
2006-09-07 18:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by boj12345 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personality is important, because no one want to marry a beach.
Looks are important, because it means that that person takes care of herself, meaning she cares for herself. Who's going to care if you don't care?
2006-09-07 18:53:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋