She has a child already and I have 2 biological ones. She believes in marriage, however I really don't because of previous relationships and trust issues I need to get over. It really hard for me to even consider marriage after she made it clear that she wants marriage for herself. Her parents appear content with each other; however, all of her close friends cheat heavy and her best friend is married. However the best friend got pregnant by someone other than her husband and my girl paid for the abortion ! Do I really need to get married to her based on what I have seen for the past 6 months?
2006-09-07 11:43:09 · 6 answers · asked by yadedyah_dc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The "push" is maybe she could be after some of your assets per her legal entitlements? You've just stated that she clearly wants this marriage for herself. What's in it for you? And there are kids involved. I can really see you end up being the sole supporter in all this. And it won't be easy for you get out.
Besides the issues you want to clear up, I see her as being a little unglued. A few cents short of a piggy bank. The cheating, paying for someone Else's abortion. All this in 6 months? A real perky mixed bag for sure. Yeah, the push is on. You can bet your sweet paycheck it is. Hurry up and sign the papers. That'll nail his coffin shut.
Please think hard about this as it is your future. Look at what your past is already telling you. Yikes! Look at the past 6 months with her and those friends of hers. Marriage is based on trust. You're already shaky in that department. You can't enter into a marriage with these types of doubts.
The answer to your question? No you do not need to get married to her. Further more you should not feel the least bit guilty for not wanting to.
2006-09-07 12:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Six months is not a long enough time to be getting married. Keep dating and if she keep's presurring you to marry her, tell her "don't let the door hit you in the crack of your @ss on the way out".
2006-09-07 18:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You shouldn't marry anyone that you don't share the same values and morals with. You're being mature about why you need to wait. She should be happy you're being honest with her. Continue to work on yourself, with or without her.
2006-09-07 18:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, never let anyone push you, and after what you have seen I see your side, I would be having serious doubts about her. Good Luck!!
2006-09-07 18:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold off!!!
2006-09-07 18:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, don't do it
2006-09-07 18:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by EVY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋