semms like girlfreinds sex drive has dissapeared will it come back
2006-09-07 11:26:00 · 25 answers · asked by scott w 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It's normal and she's probably knackered with looking after the baby. She needs to be able to relax and have some time for herself so if you can help her with that it would be good. Babies are great but they take up all your attention and energy. Just treat her kindly and don't pressurise her and she'll start to get back to how she was.
2006-09-07 11:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Belinda B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I must admit, since I had my first child 5 years ago, and then my second 2 years ago, I can't be bothered wether I have sex or not. I do make the effort because I feel that it is not fair on my husband if I don't, but I would be quite happy if I never had sex again. I work aswell, 6 hours a day, 5 days a week, and 3 hours every alternate Saturday, and I always feel absolutely knackered by about 10pm. The only thing I want to do when I go to bed is sleep! I am bothered about it sometimes, but I think my husband is ok with what he gets!
2006-09-11 05:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by lillysutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello..from Devon.
I am a mother of two,it is common for women and even men to loose intrest i sex after having children..it is frustrating for both of you.The most important thing is that you keep talking and romance her,after demands of a baby all day..and mentaly recovering from childbirth..i suggest a little courting is what is needed,she needs support,she maybe feels that she is unatractive to you..a womans body goes through so much,and you as a couple are no longer just lovers..but two parents.a big change for you both..it is often 12 months before thing ssettle down..give her a massage..be gentle..i should imagine she is scared it will hurt,or afraid of getting pregant...contraception?
making love is not just about penatration and weather you have an orgasum or not,nor is this the end of your sex life,all i can say is plenty of hugs and kisses and take things very slow..this is all normal..i did not feel like jumping into bed after childbirth..but i liked my husbands hugs and support..and giving me a break for a few hours..send her to a place where she can have a facial massage..her sex drive will return..in the mean time do what i have suggested and do not stop talking.
2006-09-08 07:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. I have a six month old son and I am on the go from the minute he wakes til well after he goes to bed. I am exhausted!
It is so difficult turning from mummy to sex godess in a second. All men think that we can and really don't think about how we are feeling. I would love my sex drive to be as it was before the baby, but my energy levels just won't let me!!
2006-09-07 20:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it will come back
and also their is the fear of getting preg again
for some woman that is a reason
also remember her reason might be that she is tired
I will give you some advise make want you
one day or evening tell her you will take care of the baby while she take care of herself at the end of the day (before bed) give a massage that will definitely lead to sex
Note after a baby women usually felt unconfortable about their body it is up the men in their lives to make sure that don't happen
So take care and made her feel sexy again
2006-09-07 11:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the mother of a 6 month old I would say this is normal. She could have post natel depression or more likely she is just exhausted from looking after baby.
Do you help her with the baby, housework etc? It is a LOT of work for one person. Make sure you help her out, ask her what she needs help with. Talk to her make her feel special and maybe start with just a cuddle in the evening with no pressure for sex.
2006-09-07 11:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by RACHEL D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal. She might not feel desireable and if you look at other women she might resent you and feel like you are comparing her to them. That is what happened to me after my husband and I had a baby. Once I got back to what I considered was normal, which took about a year, then I got my sex drive back. But nobody should ever withhold sex from their mate. It's wrong. As long as there is no physical reason for her to abstain from sex she should do it even if she doesn't want to unless she wants you to start looking elsewhere.
2006-09-07 11:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Dianna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a clean priority, your infant. there is often an adjustment time after having a infant by way of hormones and breastfeeding and all featuring having a infant. Your drained and intercourse isn't the 1st difficulty on your recommendations. maybe you think of that in case you have intercourse, you will get pregnant lower back. you ought to be certain your wellness care professional and tell him whats going on. he would be waiting that should assist you cope. And with the help of how, why DID you have a infant with a individual who's abusive to you? undesirable thought!
2016-12-18 06:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking after a baby is really hard, tiring work. your girlfriend could be feeling totally exhausted and nobody feels sexy then! try to help her with the baby as much as possible. give her some time on her own so she can start to feel like herself again. get a babysitter and wine and dine her again like you did at the beginning. make her feel like a woman again instead of just a mum! good luck and i hope all turns out ok for you both xx
2006-09-11 07:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs Chicagosgirl!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still in the post partum period, which can last up to 2 years after the birth of the baby. Her hormones are probably all over the place, and if she is breastfeeding the child it will take longer for her hormones to normalize.
2006-09-07 11:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by East of Eden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋