now she's pregnant by him,she wants me 2 tell her mom 4 her,should i?should she have the baby?should i tell my auntie the baby's daddy if she asks me? help me plzz
2006-09-07 11:00:44 · 22 answers · asked by drea318 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your cousing should tell her mother herself. Not your responsibility. Plus it will be eiaser for her. Everybody makes mistakes.. and maybe this isnt one. Maybe she wants to keep the baby. And if so good for her, only if shes ready. The baby's daddy.. well i feel is sick and wrong for taking advantage of this young girl.. but now he gets to step up to the plate.. lets hope whatever her choice may be.. he can act like a real man about it.. god bless yall and good luck
2006-09-07 11:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by misskaykai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship with her mom, there's probably no reason that you shouldn't tell her for her. She's obviously too scared, but wants her mom to know. Whether she has the baby is really up to her, and depends on her situation. As far as the Auntie thing, tough call. If you tell the mom, then it wont be a secret anymore anyway. Always be honest with yourself, do not sacrifice who you are, and what you feel for others.
2006-09-07 18:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by Corandero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not to have the baby is a personal choice and since you are neither the father nor the mother, I don't think you should really involve yourself in that decision. (Unless he is trying to force a decision on her).
As to telling your aunt, it is going to be obvious soon enough she is pregnant. I think she needs to be told ASAP by your cousin, you should only spill the beans as a last resort. She needs to be told even if the decision is to abort the pregnancy. There are legal and financial things to consider. He might be guilty of statutory rape since she is only 16. At the very least, he should be held financially responsible either for part of cost of the abortion or for the care/cost of having the baby, whatever is decided.
2006-09-07 18:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin is 16 and sleeping with a 31-year old? Life never gets dull on here! It's your cousin's duty to tell her mother, NOT you. You are under no obligation to get in the middle of this. Not only will your aunt be furious with her daughter, she will be furious with you for telling her. Tell your cousin to get a life and find out for herself what adulthood is...taking responsibility for her actions.
Oh, and by the way, he is breaking the law. He is messing with "jail bait" and if the authorities were to discover what is going on, he will be arrested.
It's called "Taking Care of your OWN Business!"
2006-09-07 18:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Hello Dolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) He can probably be charged with having sex with a minor.
2) She thinks she is old enough to have sex so she should be adult enough to tell her mom.
3) Are you going to poll us and have your cousin keep/abort the baby based on what we say? It isn't up to us.
4) Do you know for sure that he's the father? You might be wrong.
2006-09-07 18:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it...it is not your business to get into the middle of it. Let them handle it on their own.
now if you are really speaking of yourself, you should do what best fits the situation...pregnancy cannot be hidden too long. As for having the baby or not that is a decision that must be made by those responsible...
If you are cornered and asked about it just say, "You will have to talk to them. I am staying out of the controversy." that way you do not get in trouble with anyone and you are minding your own business..
2006-09-07 18:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) Your cousin is probably really freaking out. If you feel comfortable going with your cousin when she talks to her mom, that would probably make her feel a little less anxious. However, I would strongly encourage your cousin to talk to her mom herself, because your aunt might react better if she hears it directly from her daughter.
2.) Whether or not your cousin has the baby, keeps the baby, etc. is going to have to be HER decision. Since she is so young, your aunt may have to help her with her choice, but she is ulitimately the one who is going to have to live with it. Feel free to offer your input and support, but try not to pressure her too much.
3.) If your aunt asks you who the baby's daddy is, you should definitely tell her. It is technically illegal for this man to be involved with your cousin. Although you might not want to get him in trouble, he needs to be held accountable for his actions, AND help support the child if your cousin chooses to raise it.
I would also suggest that your cousin talk to a trusted guidance counselor, teacher, or clergy-person to get more perspective on this. It is wonderful that you are being so supportive, but this is too much for you to have on your shoulders alone. Good luck.
2006-09-07 18:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope for this man's sake he lives in Alabama or some other state where 16 is the legal age to consent...otherwise, he'll be in jail when his baby is born. Yes, you should tell your aunt and help your cousin through this mess.
2006-09-07 18:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth and then call the police...that 31 y/o needs to go to jail.
2006-09-07 19:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that she shouldn't have been messin around with anyone that much older than her. No, you shouldn't tell her mom for her. She had enough courage to get herself in this situation, so she needs to have justs as much courage to get herself out. Don't let her get an abortion though. I think you should just let her handle the situation.
2006-09-07 18:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by Libby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋