1) Timeouts don't work.
2) Spanking? Of course not.
3) Saying, "We don't hit. Hitting hurts" has no effect at all.
4) Pushing him away and saying, "I won't pick you up when you hit" seems to make it worse. No, I don't mean shoving, but it was suggested to not pick him up or interact with him when he is being agressive...his response so far is to hit harder.
Our toddler is generally friendly and good-natured, he just seems to lack impulse control and can be aggressive. We've read every theory we can find and listened to tons of advice but had no luck.
Help! I am getting the tar beat out of me by a two-year-old!
2006-09-07 10:39:13 · 10 answers · asked by eli_star 5 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Oh goodness. I can remember those days of having to deal with this problem. I always kept my cool and said in a very soft voice (kids tend to try to listen to you when they cannot hear you very well) that we have to "be sweet" to people. When your toddler hits you, you can tell them that that was not very sweet of them and walk away. Sometimes feeling like they have hurt your feelings more than physically will work on their conscience more. Having a two year old isn't easy! Good luck!
2006-09-07 10:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some children go through stages. This might be just one of those. When he does this grab his fists. Flick his knuckles. He has to be shown this is wrong. He might actually need a spanking. I hate to say that, but he needs to make the connection of physical pain. He might not know what it feels like for you. If he felt the pain first hand, he will naturally develop an understanding. It is placing neuro-connections in his brain. I hate spanking and I would say that will have to be the very last thing to try.
2006-09-07 10:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by Metacoma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have worked in a 2 365 days previous room and a one 365 days previous room. i'm 8 practise remote from my degree in early young children progression. i'll allow you to know that the professionals say "do not hit you youngster. It teaches them to hit." I say tell your son hitting hurts and do not hit daddy." If the habit keeps, make certain out the position the habit is coming from. interest? Is he getting interest from you even as he would not hit? even as he does hit, and also you hit him back, you're giving him detrimental interest, and to a baby it truly remains interest. next time he hits do not practice any reaction basically tell him lightly and firmly," fingers are for helping, no longer hitting. Hitting hurts." If he laughs or hits back, make him sit down in a questioning chair. Then walk away and ignore about him for a minute or so. it truly is going to take a lengthy time period, yet finally he receives it. you basically might want to make certain out the position the aggressive habit is coming from. if it truly is interest he's calling for, set your time away for daddy and me time. something that helps my children shop in ideas is i take there hand, and performance them stroke the part of my face and say "smooth. See use your smooth fingers." Make him understand what smooth fingers are. SO the subsequent time he is going to hit, remind him to apply his smooth fingers.
2016-11-25 19:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by ruffino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be firm and disciplining. if you don't teach him now that he won't get what he wants from hitting, he'll never learn it--ever.
tell him no, raise your voice a bit and seem angry. do not give him what he wants. consistency and not giving in are the two keys here
stop reading BS 'theory' and listening to advice. do what the kid needs--stop being afraid of psychologically damaging or hurting the feelings of a two year old. HE'S the kid, YOU are the parent.
2006-09-07 10:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by banzai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time out does work if done correctly. i have used this many times with different childern. lower yr tone of voice, make sure the child looks at you when speaking to them. sit them in there naughty corner, chair or what ever and tell them its not acceptable and stay for 2 minutes ( a minute for each year of there age) walk away and dont talk, if they get up take them back and done talk. keep doing this. it will work in the end. but also once they finish their 2 minutes explain to them why they were put there again and then hug.
2006-09-07 10:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#2 worked for me. As my kids grew older, an always-subtle finger pinch on the behind which I didn't release until the child stopped his/her bad behavior (2 to 3 seconds usually) worked for me too. You're not beating the crap out of the child; you're just getting his attention.
2006-09-07 10:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by carademenzo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a wuss. Spank the child. Seriously, how can you let a toddler control you like that?
In my culture we spank kids, and they turn out well.
2006-09-07 10:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
grab his hands and holler sharply, No. sort of like a dog. lack of impulse control will not serve this child well.
2006-09-07 10:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Duct tape
2006-09-07 10:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Put him on a diet.
2006-09-07 10:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by Cornsilk P 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋