I ask because right now I am in a relationship with a very nice guy who seems distant at times and does not want me to touch him or to get too close to him at times. I go to hug him and he does not want me to touch him. He says that he just does not want to be bothered but when he wants to touch me, he gets an attitude if now I am not in the mood. He just says that he is not affectionate like that. Is this really possible. Can a man love you and not be affectionate towards you and not fiend for you and want to hug you and touch you all the time? I kind of already know the answer to this, I just need some second opinions. Thanks.
2006-09-07 10:36:08 · 10 answers · asked by Miss Tee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was married for 18yrs, we had a understanding that if the mood was not there...don't force it!
Words to live by my young friend!
2006-09-07 10:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by City slicker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My husband goes through phases like that. Some days he is affectionate and other days he is 'touched out'. I'm a very touchy snuggly person and he isn't. But I know he loves me more than anything. I think some people are just like. What's not right is that yours gets an attitude with you when your not in the mood. That's something that you 2 need to talk about.
2006-09-07 17:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by bobbysgirl703 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of in the same situation. I was raised in an affectionate family, we hugged, we told each other we loved each other, etc. And I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years. He's just the opposite. He doesn't hug, he doesn't kiss, he doesn't hold hands, or any of that stuff. And when I tell him, he just says "Me too" or "Ditto", and it's because the word freaks him out. He feels it, but he just is scared to death to say it. Men typically aren't affectionate because they aren't raised to be emotional types. So women are left feeling like we aren't being accepted, and we worry about it. Don't worry! You'll drive him away. What I do with my boyfriend is when he's not paying attention, I grab his butt, or if we're sitting next to each other, I'll kiss him on the cheek. I have to make the move, but he's not bothered by it. He smiles, it's just not his thing. If this guy reacts negatively to it, I would drop him immediately! There's nothing wrong with a little affection every now and then, and he doesn't have to respond. Take charge. But don't expect him to make out with you in public or anything... Good luck with it, hope it works out for you. But SERIOUSLY - don't push it with him, he will think you are trying to change him, and will RUN. Just try some simple things and judge his reactions (behind closed doors).....
2006-09-07 17:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men are just like that! Don't worry about it, if he loves you he will show it by treating you with respect and being good to you. But if you want affection persist and if he cares about you he will give you some, even if you have to demand it!
2006-09-07 17:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mountaineer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he can love you and not need to touch you all the time. I think it's kind of immature that sometimes he's not in the mood, but he's upset when you're not in the mood, but I don't think it means he doesn't love you.
2006-09-07 17:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its possible that he isn't the mushy type but not wanting you to touch him at times is not normal loving behavior. Any guy that has been in love with me touches me all the time and usually complain that I dont touch them enough.
2006-09-07 17:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe he has issues in his past that he doesn't like being touched much ~ mmm..........touching is kinda part of a relationship. Try and work with him on this - but sounds like it might be tough though.
2006-09-07 17:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes some guys can be like that. not alot but it happens. probably his up bringing. read tips on dating, love and relationships on this site
2006-09-07 17:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl girl girl girl. none of us want to do that stuff all the time. nor do we want to do stuff with you all the time. its nothing against the the girl, its just we like our space. we will be touchy feely at certain times, like sex time. rest of the time we want to be men, we want to hang around men. then when the settling down time of day hits then thats when we want our woman.
2006-09-07 17:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by josh d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure he can. I love my sisters and I don't care if I ever hug them or not...
2006-09-07 17:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by 57chevy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋