ok. i like this guy brett. he's in my art class. we like the same bands.(Panic! at the disco, taking back sunday, fall out boy, afi, ect.) in fact, i even have the hoodie he was wearing today. i like him because we have the same taste in a lot of stuff, or so it seems. we even have the same shoes! (converse chuck taylors) thing is, i dont think he even notices me. i've caught him staring but he's always talking to this other girl, marissa. i dont know if they are just friends or what but they are always talking. my question is: how can i get him to like me, or even notice me goddamnit, i just wanna get to know him better! please no sarcastic responses.
2006-09-07 10:22:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's kinda shy, and so am i, so i cant just approach him.
2006-09-07 10:26:55 · update #1
and here is the extent of our conversations.......
aly (me)-hey do you have
brett-no
aly- how do you even know what i'm talking about?
brett- i can read your mind
aly- *gives him a wtf look and walks away*
and i was looking for a black marker.
here's our next one
aly- *walking from one end of the hallway*
brett- *walking from other end of the hallway*
cross paths
brett- nice *hesitates* hoodie
aly- *smiles*
2006-09-07 10:41:08 · update #2
Talk to him for a little while, make sure he knows you have the same interests, etc., and then back off. He probably won't really 'notice' you (in that way) until you're gone -- and then he'll start to wonder what happened, and then try to talk to you, etc., to get you to hang out with him again. Then you can slowly build up your relationship from there. Don't go for it all at once -- it will be too much and you'll seem weird and possessive. Instead, spend some time with him, then pull back, and so on, to always leave him wanting more. And if he doens't "come back"... well then that tells you that he just isn't interested, at least right now. Good luck!
2006-09-07 10:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by rd211 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. (Coming from a male perspective). It sounds like your on the right path. Honestly. The ice has already been broken, such as you both having similar interests in music and style. Obviously he has noticed you or he wouldn't of talked to you. The best thing to do is since you both have the same class, maybe continue your conversation by announcing that one of yalls favorite bands just launched their concert tour and see if he has heard anything about it or plan on going. Something along those lines, just to start another conversation. I would take it slow because if Marissa is his girlfriend than you don't want to get hurt- emotionally. Hope this helps
2006-09-07 10:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by The Helper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Everything that you've listed as having the same interests in common with the dude sounds like it would be common for everyone else as well. I too have a few pairs of chuck taylors (diff colors) and like those bands ... and if that's the case we probably shop at the same shops. Tillys, Hollister, Pac Sun, Topic and so on. He's probably diggin on that other girl, or you're right they might just be friends. Point is, you'll never know unless you ask. Don't be too forward about it ... start smiling or saying hi. Maybe just 'accidentally' bump into him once. Honey, you'll never know what would've happened unless you step up to find out. : )
2006-09-07 10:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by auniquekind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my dear, you already have his attention! When you catch him staring (even while he's talking to Marissa), just give a little wink and keep moving. He will be at your side before you know it. Now you have to keep the wink little or it looks fake. Practice it a bit. Have no worries - he has noticed.
2006-09-07 10:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Susan L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart do not use the Lord Thy God's name in vain
and please try not to be cursing so much
around people . It is not becoming of any of us
it is just a bad habit
Just be cool with him
try not to seem like you cannot do without his attention
Just be like one of the guys he will notice
Also take notes ...
what are the girls like that he is speaking to
How they dress how etc
You are watching him at a distant
so learn from what you see
Be cool k
Be the best you can be
Hang in there girl
just be totally awesome
2006-09-07 10:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Queen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok fisrt off, you cant "make someone like you", maybe its because you come off as a "buddy", I dont want to be the one to say change your looks, because if any guy is going to like you, I think they should like you for who you are, be yourself. Try not to be so giddy around him, talk to him and find out a little more about him. Spend lunchtime with him, sit next to him, try flirting but dont make it seem like you're flirting. Mainly just be yourself, and tune into your inner girl. Good luck :-)
2006-09-07 10:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be really bold. Just give him your phone number and ask him to call you. Or invite him over after-school one day..or to go to the mall or something casual like that. Hanging out together will tell you (and him) if there might be more than friendship.
2006-09-07 10:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh the age old question.....does he love me or not? Try to hang out with him more, if you are too nervous or afraid of asking him out, then talk to him more, get to know him. Ask about his family life, work life, friends, other interests, etc. The more that you hang out with him, the better you will get to know him.
2006-09-07 10:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take the first step.
Maybe it can take us by surprise, but if a woman is interested, guys don't get mad if she is the one who wants to get our phone number.
Also, you can write a letter from a secret admirer, find out if she likes you,and then let him know that is you
2006-09-07 10:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Carlos A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
such language from a young lady !!!!! anyway, just go up to him and ask if he would like to go some place one afternoon..... like out for burgers or what ever you young ppl do these days after school or on a saturday afternoon...... strike when he is alone tho.... saves the embarrasment of being around his friends and yours, who will tease... anyway, just go for the casual and do not be pushy...... you wont know till you try........ God bless
2006-09-07 10:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋