best friend. Should I confess and apologize or should I keep it a secret? His best friend and I had the affair about the time I got pregnant and now I don't know who the father is. His best friend wants to recognize the baby as his but my husband doesn't know.
2006-09-07 10:14:37 · 26 answers · asked by ppppppaaaattttttttyyyyyyy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
come clean lady...
2006-09-07 10:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by City slicker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By law if you are legally married the child belongs to the husband no matter if the child comes from another sperm. Which i think is messed up in the USA, but i would just have a secret DNA test done with the best friend and yourself and this way the child is not in the middle of a big mess of sex , and lies! If the child turns out to be the best friends, then yes you need to tell him.
Good luck and use condoms! and a back up!
2006-09-07 10:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by poophead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got a hot mess and you know that.If you tell your husband be ready for a divorce cause a man can not take it when his woman cheat and with is best friend that is trouble girl.That man was not a best friend cause he should not have slept with you for no reason on this earth.But as time go by the real daddy need to be known.That was a bad way to learn a lesson.So i am glad in a way it a baby and not a disease.
2006-09-07 10:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by Happy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just walk away... move to another city.
and yes, call maury povich... you sound like perfect material for his show.
seriously, my dear. that is just sad. two wrongs do not make a right. what you have done is not beyond repair, but some things need not be opened up unless mediated upon by someone truly influential to you and your husband.
If you truly still love your husband, then forget about the paternity of the baby and go on with life together.
but trust is the most important aspect of any relationship. and considering that it sounds like there is not much trust between you and your husband, and his "best friend" can't be trusted to keep his mitts off you, then there is something seriously wrong.
decide in your heart who you really want and go from there. there is never a clean break up.
most people stay in relationships because they do not want to be the "bad guy". well, news flash! in relationships, there are no good guys and bad guys. only someone who has the guts to be honest with him or herself, as well as his or her partner to drop it if it really aint there anymore.
2006-09-07 10:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by greekmaverick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are in troubled waters as you know. Tread lightly and carefully. Without the pregnancy and without his best friend, I would say keep quiet. Don't lie; just don't tell if not asked. With the pregnancy and his best friend, the risk is too great of him finding out under less than favorable conditions as well as possible hereditary health issues with the child. You need to assure your husband that you love him. He needs to know that you care for him. You must ask his forgiveness. Be prepared for him to not trust you for awhile. Be prepared for him to be angry. There is a chance that your marriage will be over, but it will be better for him to find out from you than for you to get caught after he finds out from someone else.
2006-09-07 10:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have really screwed the pooch on this one. I would suggest that you tell him the truth so that the boy will know who is REAL father is. Your husband and his friend are done for and more than likely so is your marriage. I would tell him in a public park or a mall. It will reduce the chance of him going totally nuts and he finds out.
2006-09-07 10:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you really think that cheating on your husband would even up the "game"? Unreal.....but now, what to do. Your husband will probably leave you if you tell him. If you want to end your marriage, tell him. If you want to stay with your husband, don't tell him. If the husband's supposedly "best" friend threaten's to tell your husband, tell him to go ahead. But, make sure you tell him what an *** he is going to look like if he does spill the beans. And if the truth comes out, own up to it and beg for forgiveness.....you never know.
2006-09-07 10:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two rights never make a wrong - but you have to come clean now. Tell him what you were thinking and how you felt and this might have been your revenge. The truth will come out at some point or another.
2006-09-07 10:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him the truth. What's the matter with you? Hearing it from you first, will feel less like betrayal than hearing it as a rumor. Or-if you want to live your life in a lie-go for it. How could you get yourself into this situation? I feel sorry for your kid. Sounds like all of you people need help.
2006-09-07 10:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by court 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband today that you were once paranoid, vindictive, and loose, but you're much better now, and his best friend wants to be your baby's daddy, whether it's his or not.
I'm sure he'll understand.
2006-09-07 10:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an idiot, and the biggest reason that men do not respect women as much as they should. Revenge sex? What were you thinking? Oh, thats right, you didn't think. You should get a divorce as soon as possible and save you and your husband even more grief.
2006-09-07 10:21:22 · answer #11 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋