Let's say you're totally into this woman, head over heels, she's everything you ever looked for and wanted in a partner...then she finds out she's barren, would you stay with her? Or would your desire to propagate your DNA be stronger and therefore you'd leave her for another woman? A fertile one, even if she isn't half the mate you had with the barren one... It doesn't matter if your single with your g-friend, dating or married. What would you do?
PS. This is not an autobiographical question *knock on wood*, but it could happen, you never know...
2006-09-07 09:28:29 · 21 answers · asked by cleo715 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, If I loved this woman and she couldn't give me a family,I would stay with her. We could always look into adoption. I mean,what if it happened to me?
2006-09-07 09:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with a woman that I love, if she could not have children. There are other ways to have children. If a man uses the excuse that she is barren, he is just looking for an easy way out of the relationship. I am blessed with 4 children, but if my ex wife did not have the ability to have children, I would have married her anyway. I loved her, not her fertility. Good Luck!
2006-09-07 09:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finding a true love is a big deal, I would never throw it away. Heck, finding a dinner date is a big deal. True love really isn't as common as it looks in the movies. I'm not sure half married people are really deeply in love.
I don't need to pass on my dna. Adoption gets the job done, and the love of my life can keep her girlish figure.
2006-09-07 09:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the man your with's true desire is to have children then I think the woman is going to be out of luck. There are many other options, serogate mother and stuff but it will be up to the man if he loves the woman enough. Basically however important it is to the man to have children with this woman will determine teh outcome. This is a hard one.
2006-09-07 10:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Nickerbockers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was once in a situation like this. It all comes down to maturity. I was young, and all I wanted to do was have sex and try to spread my seed around. As I've grown older, and she and I talk (we're still friends), I find that she is one of only two women that I have ever met that could "match" me in just about everything. I guess what I'm trying to say is that sex and all that gives way to more important things as you get older (i.e. converstation, sense of humor, etc). With today's technology (serogate mothers, etc) she not being able to have kids doesn't mean what it used too 25 years ago
2006-09-07 09:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by esko1269 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and this was the women that you planned to spend the rest of your life with her, then there should be no issue. Life puts alot of speed bumps on your paths and if your ready to bail the minute something goes wrong. There are alot of options regarding having babies. If it was love...real love, you'd make it work. Even if its a little heartbreaking because I'm sure she feels the same way
2006-09-07 09:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way, if you love someone, you love them through thick and thin. Love is love, and there's not that many places in the world your going to find it, so once you have it you hold on to it for dear life and you find ways to get around your obsticles. Everything in life happens for a reason, maybe this is happening because it may not be meant to be between you and your partner.
2006-09-07 09:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by berrios89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i loved her that way then i wouldnt care, all i would want is to be with her. I'd think "screw children, she is the most important thing to me in the world, i dont care if she is barren"
2006-09-07 09:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it is true love the guy wouldn't care. If he wants a genetic child. It is likely that your eggs could be harvested and mixed with his sperm and areificially inseminated in to a surroget mother who would carry the baby for you guys.
Some guys are very much into the ego thing about their DNA.
Other guys don't have that drive and would welcome an adopted baby in to their life.
2006-09-07 09:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've always believed that you fall in love and marry someone for who they are and that kids are a side issue. The love between me and my spouse is what is most important.
2006-09-07 09:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋