A few days ago my girlfriend of 4 & 1/2 years and I split up. She told me that the love she had for me had slowly disappeared over the last couple months, but she still loves me as a friend. She wants to be friends and not lose anything, except for the romance. Both of us are going off to college, but don't let that automatically be the reason. We had an unbelievably perfect relationship through high school...the best of friends, trusting each other with everything. The last 1/2 year has been rough, as we've both been stressed out by college preparation, etc. We constantly talked about how much we were meant for each other and nothing would ever get between us. But now we're split and I'm not sure how to deal with it. She's also been stressed by volleyball, trying to be perfect and all, so that's taken a lot of her focus. I just need some advice in general from experienced people. Can I hope to one day get back with her? How do I move on? Do I stay friends? Any help would be great!
2006-09-07 09:20:22 · 4 answers · asked by madmaxi_008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it just might be the stress that's made you guys grow apart. you can stay friends, but it's best to give it a rest completely at least for a few months. so if you don't see or talk to each other for a few months you can actually BE friends instead of confuse the relationship. If she's made up her mind that she's not into you (and it's not just the stress that's talking), it's best to respect her wishes. you can tell her that you still like her, and want to be with her...but don't over-do it, though. just have a talk with her, and have some closure. you're young and going off to college....you'll meet SOOO many ppl there. maybe this was a good thing.
2006-09-07 09:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about that. I know how much it hurts. My high school sweetheart and I broke up when he was going off to college. I couldn't understand. He said he didn't want to put me through that being apart thing. I thought I'd never find anyone like him again. I hoped and prayed we'd end up back together but it didnt happen. We remained friends for a few years but lost contact. now, he's married and I'm getting married next month. It may seem unbearable right now, but you will get past her. Look at me. I had it bad. Now I've found an amazing, wonderful true love. So my advice would be, no matter how much it hurts, let things be. If she comes back to you on her own, great! If not, it's not the end of the world. I promise! Good luck!
2006-09-07 09:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy way!!! its going to suck bad for a while...but don't keep your hopes up about getting back with her, and that will help alot...i mean i know you've been together forever...but seriously - you're going to college - you're gonna be just fine soon enough!! and by the way - have hella fun at college cause i promise she will be - you will have no problem at all meeting all kinds of people!!! good luck!
2006-09-07 09:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight for her, if you lose her at least you know you tried. if you don't and she moves on you may regret it for the rest of your life. "true loves" are hard to find
2006-09-07 09:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by farynblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋