My girlfriend tells me that she loves me and that I mean the world to her. She has some family issues and chooses to smoke weed to help those problems. In doing this she usually ends up telling me we are going to hang out and then gets stoned and I never hear from her. Finally after a day or two I call her and ask her whats going on and she just tells me she forgot to call me or that when she sees weed she wants to be there and she cant control that. This last weekend we spent everyday together and every night and now the week comes and I never see her anymore.
2006-09-07 09:13:38 · 69 answers · asked by bignydog3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The weed is obviously more important to her than you are. Move on.
2006-09-07 09:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear about that. When I first started to date my girlfriend she smoked a lot of weed. Although she started to live with me right away, so I was still able to see her. I didn't like it too much though because trying to have a decent conversation with somebody who is stoned when your sober is not fun.
I would let her know how you feel about the situation, and her smoking habits. Maybe she will try to smoke less and eventually see that she doesn't need it at all. Just talk to her about it. Just because she gets high doesn't mean she can't call you. If she really cares for you, you would be on her mind stoned or not.
If talking to her about how you feel doesn't work you always have the option of getting stoned with her. Then you can spend time with her and she won't have to forgo her weed.
2006-09-07 09:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by drewstealth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she really does love you she wouldn't be choosing weed over you. even if it was an addiction, if she loves you she would try to stop. when you love someone you don't want to do anything to hurt the person you are with and right now it seems like she doesn't really care about your feelings. i suggest you sit her down and tell her how that makes you feel. if she still doesn't change then you might have to move on even though you might really love this girl. you don't want to put up with this now because it will only be worse later on in the relationship.
2006-09-07 09:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do depends a lot on the investment you've put into the relationship. I don't believe in the old saying, once and addict, always an addict. Give her a chance, but not many. If she won't get help after a decent effort on your part, this will emotionally damage you, both her lack of respect and committment to you, and watching her potentially deteriorate. You might need to find someone to take your mind of her. But I don't support cheating. Good luck.
2006-09-07 09:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doenst make since to me, i think its more then smoking weed, is it all the time that she only spends time with you on the weekend? if so i might be questioning weather or not shes involved with someone else. I know many people that smoke and dont have a problem doing what there supposed to do or even what they want to do
2006-09-07 09:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to get emotionally involved. Just physically and you wouldn't get hurt. this doesn't sound like it is going to last. she may even be cheating on you. I used to smoke a lot of weed when I was young and I never used that to not see a girlfriend or buddy. I was alwasy able to get up and chill no matter how stoned I was.
2006-09-07 09:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got 4 choices:
1. Dump her
2. Deal with it
3. Get another hottie on the side for during the week
4. Start smoking the green
Take a pick (3 sounds good to me)
2006-09-07 09:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a serious problem, because she's not just doing weed.. Weed dosn't make you forgetful like that. She's probably messing around w/ other drugs... I think you deserve a better girlfriend.. Noone deserves to put up w/ that. Trying offering help first, but if she doesn't try to get better, I suggest you let her go... You can do better than that...
2006-09-07 09:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex-bf was into weed....that's what made us break up. she has a problem with the substance, and she needs to realize it. it's totally NOT up to u. she won't listen. let her know that the weed is coming in between the relationship, and that you're not going to stand for it any more. tell her you love her, but you can't go on like this. remind her too of the fun time you had with her when u actually spent time with her....
2006-09-07 09:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't go out with a girl if she is smoking weed. Why would you want to be a friend or have a relationship with someone like that? If i was in your situation i would get rid of her.
2006-09-07 09:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by Zam 14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to choose. I am not a anti marijuana advocate. I've used the stuff myself, but when it starts to control your life, you have a problem. She has a problem. You can stay with her and help her overcome it(which could be painful), or you could move on and find someone else. Try patience for awhile. It sounds like you have real feelings for her, but make a time schedule when things have to change. Life does not go on forever.
2006-09-07 09:20:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋