How do you get over the death of your mother?

Question

I lost my mother when I was 18. How do you find acceptance and closure?

Answer 1

Losing your Mother is never an easy thing and you never find true closure when you lose someone you love. But to think positive and know that there is life after death, and she is watching you, she is talking to you and she is right there with you, not missing a thing. She isn' t paying bills anymore, and working to try to make ends meet anymore, there is no more stress in her life and no more disappointments and heart breaks. She is in a realm that she is relaxing and enjoying the company of those that she loved and lost before her time came, and she is with you most and foremost........ always. When a gentle wind blows you can feel her snug hug, and when her favorite movie comes on you can remember her laughter........ your memories and your heart keep her alive, and she is with you always. Blessed be......... she would want you to know that she is here and she wants to see you to continue to grow in your life. Live and celebrate your life to the fullest........... she did, and she had the greatest blessing and miricle she could ever recieve. YOU.

Answer 2

I lost my mom too when I was 20. I am 21 now. I don't know how to get over losing your mother I never got over mine. I think you will carry that empty feeling with you for your whole life. It will eventually just become a part of you like a definition of who you are as a person. The way in which you lost your mother could have something to do with how you feel you need closure. Accepting your mothers death will come only in time. If you want to you can e/mail me and I will be happy to talk to you further about this. Either way best of luck to you.

Answer 3

I lost my mum nine years ago I was 24, it's the anniversary of her death on the 19th of this month, I know the the plain and hardship, you might even be feeling very sore I do some times..but I found that talking with other family members helped a great deal talking about the good times looking at photos,every year on the anniversary my family go out for a meal to celebrate her life,

you could have some kind of marmoreal,or plant a tree in her honor..but what ever you do I hope you do find acceptance and closure.

Answer 4

I haven't lost my mother but I have lost my father. I think the main thing is time and nothing else can help. I used to really hate it whe people asked if I was 'over it'. You don't get over something like a parent's death because something has changed in your life that will never be the same again. I think it's better to say that you get used to it because eventually you do accept that they've gone and manage to work around the hole that they've left behind in your life. You'll find a place to fit the good memories and even manage to come to terms with the bad ones eventually and get on with your life.

Answer 5

You don't ever get over it, it is a very long process , I lost my son in Feb. I have accepted the fact that he's gone from this world , but I still have days where I just sit and cry. I'm sure just like my son , your mother would not want you to stop living , they can't rest in peace, if they are worrying about us . For grieving, time is our only friend. God Bless you...I see you are getting so many wonderful answers , most of them are or have been there , it's really refreshing to see there are alot of very nice and caring people here, that really can give good advice. Nice job people, God Bless you all

Answer 6

I don't know how you ever get over it, I think it just takes time for the death to feel less painful. It also depends on how your parent died and if you had a good/bad relationship at the time of their death. If it has been years and years I would suggest seeing a professional about it. I lost my father 6 years ago, and some days it really bothers me. Sometimes I don't think about it for awhile. But fathers day, his birthday the day of his death, are always reminders of what I no longer have. I wish you the best!

Answer 7

You didn't say how old you are now and how she died. I am 42 and I just lost my dad a week and a half ago. While I miss him dearly, I have accepted the fact that he is in a better place and he is no longer suffering from the ravages of the cancer that took him. Pray that God will help you heal. Know that your mother is with you always in your heart and watching over you. Ask yourself "what would mom want me to do?". I am sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Answer 8

You can never find closure, it just becomes easier to bear and when you think of them you remember the good times. I lost my 17 year old son in an accident three years ago and it nearly killed me with grief but I now think of him in a better place and remember all the fun we had together and you can do the same with your mum, shes still with you and is in your heart and she would want you to be happy. Take care.

Answer 9

I am so sorry. Acceptance is the end of the grieving process, but I don't believe in 'closure.' There's no such thing. You will remember her forever, and wouldn't you want to?
I've lost a son to leukemia, a husband to suicide and my mother to [thank God] old age. But they are still a part of my life and my heart, and always will be. Cry when you need to, laugh when you want to - but remember always. God bless.

Answer 10

This is a really delicate subject.
It is an awful thing to happen to anyone, i speak from experience, and honestly the only thing is time is a great healer, I know you dont want to hear that right now, but it is true.
When my mum died it really did hit me badly, it took me forever, i am now 16 years on, and still miss her.
I have been told that cruse is an organisation a bit like the samaritans that will help you overcome your grief, they specialise in someones loss. PS I am in the UK, that is what we have here. So sorry, and you feel so alone dont you.
See your doctor and talk to him if you do not have family or friends that understand he may be able to refer you to someone.
Good luck, and know that she has to be in a better place than where ever we are. That is what i tell myself. Good luck.