2006-09-07 08:57:26 · 19 answers · asked by oceanwaves 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
im pregnant and not planning adoption just wondering how others feel.
2006-09-07 09:08:09 · update #1
NO!!!!! My son wasn't planned and I freaked out at first (1st kid, single mom, not finished w/college, etc). Then I saw the 1st ultrasound and he was wiggling around and eventhough I couldn't feel him yet I realized that I had this awesome little guy inside me and all I wanted from that moment on was to take care of him. He is a year old now and I have never thought of him as baggage. Infact he has helped me make better decisions in my life and he has made it easier to want to take care of myself (eating right, working out, etc.) as well. He is by far the best thing that has ever happened to me.
2006-09-07 09:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by autumn_hendrix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way when I had my three children and filed for a divorce and the children were three,one,nine months old moved to a different state but i was also strong in the mind and out for revenge my ex would not hold a job so the first thing I did was find a job then from there on I lived to give a lot of love to my children and also I believed that god wanted me to raise his children not mine because if you look at it not everyone can have a child and I knew that no matter what I had to go threw i just knew that I had to do it the best way.Glad to say the children are all adults now and have slipped and made the comment that I wondered what my life would of been if I never had quit school and married there dad bad move because they remind me if it was not for their dad they would not be hear. Please just keep this question to your self and remember it is gods child that you are raising
2006-09-07 16:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by bert_ind20042000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. I'm sorry, I am not trying to laugh AT your question, but I am laughing at the fact that I have HONESTLY thought about this. When I am angry at my husband, or if my little precious 3 month old is up all night...I drift off and think, "man, remember when I was single, with no kids...I could jump up and go out to a happy hour, or the fact that I could even get a full 8 hours of sleep". Well, that isnt my life anymore, and I wouldnt change it for the world. Those empty nights I had after coming from a club (after meeting a bunch of losers), or the times I saw other mothers holding their babies in their arms, laughing and kissing them....have been replaced with my own reality.
You will enjoy it. You will find joy in it. Trust me.
2006-09-07 16:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Although there are moments when I wish I could take a break.
My kids are not quite yet in adolescence, so my attitude may change.
I think I have hit a sort of "midlife crisis" in terms of childreading. I feel burned out. It takes a lot of dedication and energy.
I waited a long time so I could enjoy my early adult years. I read a lot of books on childrearing so I wouldn't make many mistakes, because children with problems are so much harder to raise.
2006-09-07 16:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't regret for one minute for having my children. I think that having them probably saved my life. Who knows what I would be doing if I didn't have to grow up and get some responsibility. I see young women my age with no ambition and doing nothing productive for themselves. Yes it's hard work, but it's a learning process. I go by the motto, What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. My kids have sure enough made me stronger.
2006-09-07 17:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by rostajparker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. My first was conceived before I married her Daddy. So basically, that pregnancy changed my life. Everything I now have and am is pretty much due to my eldest child's unexpected arrival. I am loved by a wonderful man. I'm more patient that I believed myself capable of. I'm more happy than I ever was pre-motherhood. Of course there are rough spots, but I couldn't regret my kids! I think they teach me more than I teach them. The school of motherhood is a nice place I think.
2006-09-07 16:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think using the word "REGRET" in this case is wrong no one ever regrets it i think they might think "what if"!! The only people who actually regret things when it comes to there kids are parents who lose them or give them up to the state. Because they will never hear there kids laugh be able to heal an ouchie.
2006-09-07 16:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by britt3m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regret is a strong word there have been times when I have wondered if I might the right decision like would he have had a better life if I had given him up for adoption instead of keeping him divorcing his father and raising him on my own
2006-09-07 16:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by barbie89032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I was like I can't go anywhere anymore spontaneously I have to get a baby ready and carry a car seat and make bottles and not get any sleep.. My baby is only a mth so I'm a fairly new mommy.. But I don't regret my son.. I just don't want anymore..
2006-09-07 16:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by menyon2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a three year old, and am married.
I do not regret it at ALL. My daughter and my husband are everything to me.
Sure, sometimes I miss being single and going out, or whatever, but then my daughter looks at me with her big brown eyes, and says "I love you mama!" or , "Come on mama, we do an experiment please!!"
I'd rather have that than a night out at the bar or something.
2006-09-07 16:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋