So I am madly in love with a man who happens to be black. The problem being that my family are Nazi's and told me if I even even date a black man I would be dis-owned and I would no longer have a home with them.
Well I can't see my life without this man, but I do love my family dispite how they think, they are family...
What do I do?
2006-09-07 08:14:36 · 19 answers · asked by Jane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is truely a tough decision. From my point of view I would tell you, if you truely love him and you two honestly see a future together then stay with him. If your family loves you they should see that you are happy and that is all that should matter to family.
A lot of answers say that "blood is thicker then water" But "BLOOD" should never dis-own you for doing somthing that makes you happy. I mean your not hurting anyone for Christ sakes.
And why should you give up a person who you love for the family, when your family can't even give up a thought of mind, or a belief they hold for you? ... If they don't forgive you, you have a man you love beside you, if they love you as much as they prolly do, they will get over it.
*Well lAtA good luck I hope I could help*
2006-09-07 16:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok when you say nazis are you talking about white supremicists or is it just a metaphor for speaking how strict they can be with their ideas? You have a serious problem that needs to be carefully considered and not taken lightly. Secretly dating him I would not suggest for this will only create more turmoil. Now you must ask yourself some questions before you proceed to make any decision. First of all do you believe in the ways of your parents? It would seem if you became interested in a man of color then I would say no. Now how far do you think your parents would take this once they learned of your betrayal. Because this is how they will see your act even if that is not what you mean to do. Think carefully on the subject and ask yourself what is more important
2006-09-07 08:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by fryedaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, the whole secretly dating thing is a fairy tale. Try that in the real world and there is no doubt that you will get hurt. You need to be serious about this man to leave your family for him. I'm not promoting racism in any way, I'm black, but if this turns out to be a pointless love affair you will be out of your family. If this is just a little fling, a forbidden romance if you will, it will need to end somewhere. If he knows about the situation make your decision and if its to stay with your family, tell him, if he loves you like you think he does he will understand. No one wants to see someone they love hurt. But if your decision is to be with him, you should do the exact same thing with your family. Blood is thicker than water, but scars last longer than tears.
2006-09-07 11:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm dating a black man and when I met him and we started dating it didn't even cross my mind what my family would think. If they have a problem with it then they have to deal with it not me. I am happy with my man and nobody will come between us just because he's black.
You might have to make a choice between your man and your family but in my mind it's a no brainer. Your family is racist and close minded. They may disown you for a while but some of them might accept your choice and respect you for it.
2006-09-07 08:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family that this is the 21st century and racism is a crime. If you and your man love each other that much, you need to do what ever it take to be happy.
If your family can't respect your choice, you need to say "I'm sorry but I love him." Hopefully by the time grand-kids come about they will have realized there mistake, and won't take there misconstrued ideas out on the grand-kids.
Best of luck
2006-09-07 08:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by sarahgarlough 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow your family's advice. Family will always be there for you but boyfriends come and go.
2006-09-07 08:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It the same problem with me and my gf. If her parents found out that my gf(who is white) is dating a black guy, they will kick her out of the house and dis-own her too. I think that you too should just fight it out. If they don't like it, tough. They will have to deal with it. Interracial couples are becoming greater by the moment, and they have no control over it.
2006-09-07 08:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by Brandon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have never dated a black guy knowing how your family felt about it. Now your in the middle of a lose lose situation. I would choose my family. You can get married and divorced in 5 yrs. Then where will you be ?
2006-09-07 08:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you got to have priorities
if i were you i would choose my family cause they will always be by your side no matter what and not a guy who you just foud ad dont even know if he loves you truely like your family does
it would be such a shame for your family if you dont recognize what they did and do for you to get with a man
i know really what it is like cause sster got with a man who my family didnt like and who aint worth ad forgot all the love our family always gave her
she is such a ungrateful
you can find a man whenever want but if you loose your family support you aint never find it in anyone
2006-09-07 08:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would keep on going out with this man that you love. because he means alot to u and u do love him . and if he can take care of you then i would say stick with him for a while ..
and just let ur parents get over this hole u dating a black man thing they will get over it sooner or later
2006-09-07 08:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋