can someone tell me the truth 100%?

Question

want the truth 100% please,i always had a hard life since child hood,got maried had a hard maried life,got divorced still having a hard and confusing life,my oldest children are adults now my youngest is with his mom i lost house and every thing i dont drink or smoke still every day seems the same what good im i doing here seems like im just taking up space when i was drinking and smoking i had a family to go to,whats up with that,what is realy the meaning of living what do i go from here.

Answer 1

Try reading "Wild at Heart" and "The Sacred Romance" by John Eldridge.

Christianity is not about "being a nice guy". There is an adventure to live. Jesus promises an "abundant life", not one of temperance.

I'm sorry for your setbacks, I can relate. This book really helped me to see that trying to "play nice" really isn't Christianity, and really isn't good for men.

Answer 2

Typically the issue is this....If everything around you is crap, then most likely it is you that needs to change.

Most likely its a carry over from your childhood which you did not have control and just learned to accept and accommodate grief and irritation.

Think of your self as a puzzle piece, what fits? What plugs in to you? Anger? Irritation? Confrontation?

You see, all those things are out there. Things to press your buttons. Its a matter of what you seek. Maybe you don't deliberately seek it BUT its what fits. What you take in. And most importantly, how you react and reflect those stimuli.

You have to rearrange YOU. You have to reshape your puzzle piece so happiness and comfort more easily is taken in and all the bad stuff doesn't fit so easily any more. Sure you'll still have your days BUT once YOU start making the changes you'll see that people that fit the old you will start to go away and those that will accommodate a more peaceful you will begin to appear in your life.

One step at a time, one irritation at a time. For me? The best place to practice is while driving. If you're a hot head chance are driving gets you fired up. Practice staying cool, practice letting people in, check your self when you are cut off and DONT react. Stay cool and mellow. Then adapt that to other areas of your life.

Wont happen overnight and it wont happen unless you try...Every single day. It takes time a practice.

A new life awaits you only if you can lose the resentment, anger, self pity and short fuse. Start with forgiveness, love for your self and compassion for others.

That's the truth...Just remember, acceptance is much more constructive than denial.


You can do it!!! =)

Answer 3

Start by reading books on religion, spirituality, philosophy, etc. without any assumptions or preferences and in time you find the one and only truth, as I and many people here have.
The 1st book I recommend for a person in your situation is The Purpose Driven Life by pastor Rick Warren (no I'm not an evangelist like him).
I think it will get you going in generally the right direction in life, and then later on you can develop an understanding of the specifics needed to life a life in the light of truth.
I wish I could help you more, but I am in a hard situation myself right now and need more help than I can give, so just know that THERE IS A PURPOSE IN LIFE FOR EVERYONE, INCLUDING YOU, and never give up on finding what that purpose is.

Answer 4

No one can tell you the truth... that's the point of life- discovering that truth on your own. You have to stop seeing yourself as a victim, and start seeing life as simply a challenge, a class, a series of lessons. Step up to the plate, work on your lessons, and gain wisdom and knowledge from them. Accept the things you can't control, but be proactive with the things you can- that's the most you can hope for in life. Hopefully, in the end, you will know your own version of the truth, but it's a life-long process (even a multiple-life-long process). Best of luck to you! :)

Answer 5

I didn't see anywhere that you are going to church, praying, reading the scriptures, etc. All you mentioned was the bad stuff that has happened to you. Get "right" with God. Pray. Ask for His help, expect to get an answer. Read your scriptures and take the time to investigate several churches until you find the right one for you. Go to a meeting designed to help those who have gone through a divorce keep in touch with God.
All I know about you is what you have posted in this question, but God knows all about you. Go to Him as you would your own Father and He will not let you down.

Answer 6

Yar matey, tis a sad tale to be sure. But, life is oft that way. The sea is full of tastey fish, shrimp and lobster which many find and are happy. While others find a boot at the end of their line. There's no tellin why. Just don't walk yer own plank and keep searching for yer treasure. You will find it someday. Savvy? The sea of life will rise and fall, just stay afloat, and you'll be alright.

Answer 7

Regardless of what you have been taught, life is not meant to be a test or struggle. It should flow with effortless ease. Mine does.

The universe is benevolent. If you simply learn to romance it, the universe will lovingly orchestrate an infinite number of details, events, and circumstances to your advantage. You will have good luck.

If something does not work, it is time to stop doing it. Right?

Struggling through life is an indication that an individual is out of harmony with himself, with the law of his being.

May I invite you to read Ancient Wisdoms 1 & 2 at http://TaoBarbie.com ?

It is there to make you think. Try something else. This is not an attempt to get you to change religions. It will enhance your beliefs and give them power.

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Answer 8

Change your directiona nd find soemthing you can work at. Look for a new type of job or go back to school. If you feel like you're taking up space then do something about it and make your self feel better. no one here will be able to solve your problems , that's only somethng you can do. Pirate... Heal thyself.

Answer 9

God loves you--not the generic "you," not just "everybody," but you personally you. And He loves you completely and without reserve or conditions. He loves you more than your parents, more than your ex-wife, more than your children, more than all of your friends....combined. Don't forget it! It's so important to remember how much you are loved!

I am copying a story I just shared on another question. I hope it helps you with where you are right now on your journey. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless!

I hope that in reading this story you will see the generosity and absolute love of God. I had stopped thything during a 3 month period or so about 2 years ago when I found out that I was going to lose my job. My job at that time was already only $900 per month (ie $10,800 per year)--before taxes--and every month was gift to get by without going under. God kept me afloat during that job because He knew that I took it to honor him, He knew that I thythed with what little I had, and He always took care of me. When the time approached when I would have no job, I was terrified. Of course, with $900 per month I had nothing saved up. I was so depressed. I felt like such a failure. I felt so personally rejected every time I heard back from an interview. If that wasn't enough, my grandfather to whom I was pretty close was dying. But I couldn't cry--about anything--I was so depressed it was like I was just walking through life.
One day while I was making a turn, I passed by a homeless man begging on the corner. I guess it sort of hit me then: the only difference between me and him was quite possibly a few weeks and some generous family members who might take pity on me. I pulled over and walked to the median. As I handed him a 20, I was sobbing. It was the first time I could cry about everything--it was the first time I was able to let it out. I think maybe he thought I was crazy. He said something to me like, "Let me walk you back to your car." and he did. I really can't remember what else he may have said. I felt so relieved to be able to cry, and I felt so honored that God would have given me the opportunity to give in this way--I mean, I never would have known that I was capable of that--I wouldn't have believed it even though it was about myself. But God gave me that as a gift. And you know what? After job searching for 9 months straight, I got 3 job offers in 1 week--the week following that gift--see? You can't outdo God in generosity--although I didn't quite know it at the time. And had I waited to give that man money until after I recieved a job offer, think how much less honor that gift brought to God. I think of it kind of like the lady in temple that Jesus pointed out gave less than the rich man, but gave all that she had. I thank God for the opportunity to use His gift of money to me to help others around me. I hope it pleases Him. And I hope that if I am homeless like the man I met, that someone else--even if they have very little--will share with me.
Thank you for listening. God Bless!

Answer 10

1. Admit you are a sinner.
"If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us." (1 John 1:10)

2. Be willing to turn from sin (repent).
Jesus said: "I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish." (Luke 13:5)

3. Believe that Jesus Christ died for you, was buried, and rose from the dead.
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." (John 3:16)

4. Through prayer, invite Jesus into your life to become your personal Saviour.
"For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved." (Romans 10:13)

If you have received Jesus Christ as your Saviour, as a Christian you should:
1. Read your Bible every day to get to know Christ better.
"Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth." (2 Timothy 2:15)

2. Talk to God in prayer every day.
"And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive." (Matthew 21:22)

3. Be baptized, worship, fellowship, and serve with other Christians in a church where Christ is preached and the Bible is the final authority.
"Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:" (Matthew 28:19)

4. Tell others about Christ.
"And he said unto them, Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature." (Mark 16:15)