Ihave asked him why he is reluctant to try to do it normally but he says he is afraid but doesn't know why. We have been together almost 2 years and this is preventing me from getting turned on as I feel what's the point if I am not getting much satisfaction in return. He is very loving in other ways and enjoys cuddling and kissing.
2006-09-07 07:55:48 · 19 answers · asked by kazziecat_9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he is 50 years old and never had sex he may just be frightened of making a fool of himslef with you, i take it you have had sexual partners in the past before you met him, maybe if you just took it off your own accord to take control he may enjoy it but i wouldnt do anything too wild!! if he asks you to stop then do it straight away you dont want to pressure him into things, if it were a woman who didnt want sex and a man did this to her you could get in trouble.
try talking with him and reasure him that you just want to try things with him and he should be willing as long as he feels no pressure, if this doesnt work then there is always professional help for the both of you as a couple, but if he wont even try this option then you may want to think about if you can spend the rest of your life or even just the next few years with a man who doesnt want to try and fulfill your needs as you do his!
good luck :)
you could always refuse to masturbate him until he is prepared to try sex with you!!
2006-09-07 09:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by sam g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a little selfish because he isn't thinking of your satisfaction. I have been in similiar situations with younger guys but I too am currently seeing a man in his 50's but he is the opposite. He always puts me first. It might be however, that he has trouble getting arroused and doesn't get enought arrousal from sex and is just too embarrased to talk about it.
2006-09-07 08:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wowza. Yeah, you will desire to break up with him, whether you like it or no longer. And telling your dad and mom may be the perfect element to do. they have been your age; and of direction have carried out what you in simple terms did (which led to you). How do you comprehend if that condom became into even on each and each of how? you nonetheless would have made a newborn.. in simple terms considering the fact which you wore condoms does no longer mean that it is struggling with you from making a toddler. you will desire to have mentioned no as quickly as he gave you the condom. good success, nonetheless. :/ next time don't be on my own with a guy. Your 1st is meant to make certain.
2016-12-12 04:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by vogt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister's first husband had the same problem. She divorced him.
You may have to face the fact he will never be able to do it.
I advise against jumping on him, etc....
Maybe you could get him close to orgasm then bend over and present yourself to him while playing with yourself. See what he does. A few alcoholic drinks before hand may help too.
The alternative is he has a serious sexually transmitted disease.
2006-09-07 08:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by Young Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear god. I feel for you, I really do. Why dont you just get him hard and then just, you know, jump on whilst telling him its gonna be okay and stuff. Maybe its the pressure, and if you take that away then maybe he'll go for it. No expert though, but hell, anything's worth a crack if you havent shagged for two years.
2006-09-08 03:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by AaronO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well whoa!
I am glad you guys are having a sexual life!
I think you might just have to take control it seems.
Tell him your desires and see if he responds and stress the importantance of it all. Then if that doesnt work get him drunk and take advantage, once he feels how incredible it is, it shall be all good
2006-09-07 07:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's afraid of sex but doesn't know why he should get some psychosexual counselling. If you live in the UK Relate can offer this.
2006-09-07 08:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by Huh? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's strange and if I were you I would be looking for someone else. It has nothing to do with his age, it's a personal thing and I wouldn't be satisfied being someones second hand masturbation tool.
2006-09-07 08:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him to see a counsellor and see if he will let you go with him. it will be something in his past or could be a medical problem. it's difficult for blokes to admit there is something wrong. try getting him to think it is to help you as well and then it may be more acceptable to him and make him less self consious
2006-09-07 09:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try saying you want to do something romantic, like a dinner date at home with candles lit and then give hints and hopefully itll happen.
good luck!
2006-09-07 08:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋