We set a date tuesday but I haven't heard from him since then. He was online but hasn't answered either of my two emails to confirm. I have decided if he doesn't confirm, I would rather not bother. I have never had a date that I didn't confirm with the night before. Am I being a b**** ? What should I say if he shows up and then emails me about me not showing up? It is an eveing date which will require me to spend money on a taxi when the date is over and I can't afford to go out to meet him if I am not sure he will be there.
2006-09-07 07:52:22 · 22 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We haven't met yet, he is just a guy I have talked to on a dating site.
2006-09-07 07:53:05 · update #1
Don't bother going if he doesn't bother replying to your emails. if he emails and gripes about you not showing up tell him that he should have confirmed and not simply assumed that you'd be there.
2006-09-07 09:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sanzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you guys haven't met yet, it goes without saying that it is even more important to confirm the date.
People confirm dates the day or night before (I mean, intelligent, courteous people that is.) So you are quite correct in feeling that way.
If he shows up without confirming, then that's his loss and stupidity. He can't tell you anything because you send him two e-mails asking for confirmation to which he didn't reply.
And I'm assuming at some point you guys exchanged numbers, so he could call you to confirm in case he has a problem with his e-mail (if you guys were planning to meet without exchanging numbers, both of you are morons.)
I'd say if he doesn't confirm by say, 6 hours before the date, forget about it. In fact, make alternate plans for the same evening... AND STICK TO IT. That way, even if he finally calls 1 hour before the date, you'll tell him that you made other plans since he didn't confirm in advance. No matter what he says, sticks to the alternate plans.
Good luck
2006-09-07 08:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by elnyka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok lets think about this logically. U have never met this man before, y r u so interested in dating someone that u met online? I am a very protectful person, have u thought about the precautions? For instance, did u let someone else know that u were meeting a complete stranger and the exact location?
Lady do u watch the news, predators r everywhere!
Online is not the best place for dating, what if e follows ur taxi home and u don't know this?
Lets use the brain that we were born with, it would not be a good idea!
2006-09-07 07:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Online dating huh? Be carefull. I don't know how old you are, but you could probably be talking to some pervert who is not who he says he is. If I were you, I would not even bother to meet him for the date. First off, he did not reply to your emails(my initial response to the question was going to be how some men like to play that role of not being interested when they really are, but then I gave it a little more thought). And second, he is a complete stranger. I can see if you two met somewhere and ended up setting a date, but this is online dating(placing a senerio that he met you somewhere and just asked you on a date and you agreed). There are a lot of wierdos out there. You don't want your picture ending up on the wall of your local post office.
I am not you, so logically you are going to do what you please, but I suggest to not even go on the date. But that's just my advice and there should be different responses from other individuals on here. BE SAFE. Bye Love!
2006-09-07 08:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mitchell B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet people on a dating site, always remember you might not be the only one showing some interest in a person.
Now, you should get a confirmation to the date because it is the respectful and decent thing to do.
I myself if you don't confirm a date, I won't bother to make any effort to show up someplace I am not sure you will be.
The other person should want to confirm the date for their best interest.
Maybe his word is his bond and he knows he's going to be there because he keep his word but that wouldn't be good enough for me if he doesn't confirm.
If you have done your part and you still haven't gotten a return call, I wouldn't waste my valuable time on trying to figure it all out.
2006-09-07 07:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes if I think I have already set a date to meet a girl, then that is it. I don't call and re-confirm, I just show up at the time/place we have already agreed upon. In this case, I would have a plan B (meeting up with you girlfriends or whatever) so if the guy doesn't show, your nite isn't ruined.
2006-09-07 07:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by dino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say do not go unless he confirms. He may be in it for the thrill of the chase, but when it really comes down to it he does not want to actually go throught with it. Since he has been online and has seen two of your messages, the least he could do is confirm.
If it does not work out, shoot me an email ;)
2006-09-07 07:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by BG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if he does not confirm that he is going to be there, then why bother. If you have never met him, then you don't really know what to expect then. I would not go either if he don't confirm and I would send him an email first telling him that. Good Luck and have fun and be safe on your date if you get to go...
2006-09-07 07:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have his phone number? If so, I'd call him.There is a small chance that there's a good reason he hasn't responed to your e-mails. If you like this guy, you might not want to risk blowing it if there is a good reason. I think it's a gamble.. either you take the chance or you don't.
If you don't go, and he shows up, then your chances are probably over or at least hurt pretty badly. If you don't go and he doesn't show up.. it's over anyways. If you go, and he doesn't show up - it's over. If you go and he does show up (with a reason for the missunderstanding), then you two could have a chance still.
Good luck.
2006-09-07 08:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by coolnessa8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are beginning this relationship correctly because you are demanding certain standards of courteous behavior right from the start. Bravo! If he does not confirm, and you don't go, and he emails you asking why, tell him the truth, politely, that you were not certain the date was still on. Then, if you're feeling incredibly generous, give him one more chance. If not, tell him c u l8r, loser.
2006-09-07 07:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't confirm -don't go. If he emails you back just tell him you have been trying to confirm with him and received no response so you assumed that the date was cancelled.
2006-09-07 07:57:05 · answer #11 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋