I met someone while on vacation a year ago. He fell straight in love with me. We became best friends, but he was never someone I actually saw myself dating. We talked on the phone almost every day, and we have each made 2 trips to see each other since then. He became the only person in my life that I felt comfortable talking to about NO MATTER WHAT. I love him a lot, just not in that way. He used to send me flowers, and presents, etc., but I always told him that we were just friends, and we were both ok with that.
Suddenly, he doesn't call me anymore. We talk when I call. He doesn't send cards. His attitude has changed. I asked him if he was dating someone but he completely denied it.
Do you think he's dating someone, or he just got tired of waiting?
2006-09-07 07:44:28 · 27 answers · asked by misscongeniality711 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Woah woah woah.
Ok, yes, when it started, we sorta dated. But I honestly in my heart thought that we both agreed that we couldnt do the long distance dating thing. We were extremely close. He spent Thanksgiving with my at my parent's house. I stayed at his house twice. I never pushed him away. His gifts were appreciated, but I never took them for granted. I always tried to get him to not spend money on me, etc. BECAUSE i felt bad like I wasn't giving anything in return. You guys make me out to be the bad guy... I never led him on to believe it would work out.
I guess I may have taken some of the attention for granted, because my feelings are changing. I wasn't kenieving though so please don't get angry like that.
2006-09-07 08:10:05 · update #1
Both. He got tired of waiting and found someone else to date. If you didn't love him "that way" why are you having a hard time with the fact that he no longer calls or sends you cards? Live and let live.
2006-09-07 07:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Minina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met someone just like this and then later I found out he was married and had kids. He lied to me and also, then I met someone else and he was dating another woman. If a person cannot be up front with you and cannot tell you why they are not calling or coming around anymore and is not honest with you, then it is not love. You can like a person. I am also as the Bible said Samuel was a "seer" and yes there is someone else, also there is some money issues, be careful in distance romances. Pray to God and ask for a sign. Also read Psalm 4. It is a prayer for what you need in times of love.
2006-09-07 14:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by jlove1947 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hopefully for him its both!
I know males LOVE the chase but after awhile like any animal if you cant "catch" your prey you move on to something you can catch. You did him a disservice if you accepted gifts knowing that he had more feelings for you then you did for him. The verbage about relationships always goes " He who loves the LEAST controls the MOST" and if you were in love with your FRIEND and he was in love with his HOPEFUL future wife then you are to blame. He is a big man to still speak to you but I am sure he feels hurt and unappreciated. I hope for his sake he finds a woman that does care for him and will give him the respect he deserves and has earned. Women always want the bad guy but wish their bad guy was sweeter. And when you ladies have a nice guy you are so quick to say "I cant see myself with him" When in fact you just think you will be settling if you were with him. And that is the part I dont get, are yall just to scared to settle for an unsual happiness?
I hope this can help clear the air and you are open to hear the truth about some of what i am saying. I am sure its not all 100% right but I would bet I am at least 75%. peace
2006-09-07 14:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by gstolard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this wrong, but do you think you might have taken his friendship for granted and now that you are not getting the attention he was giving you, you are now starting to get worried?
On the otherhand, the guy should have stopped trying so hard if you were constantly pushing him away in regards to a romantic relationship. My personal opinion is that he just got tired of waiting.
2006-09-07 14:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Minina on this one. In 90% of the cases, girls and guys can't be friends without some kind of interest. One person (you) is totally fine with being the friend and the other person (him) is hanging out waiting for you to change your mind. By not calling you, he is sending a message that it is now or never. Even if you become friendly again, it won't be the same if you don't want to be with him. He is at the end of his rope.
2006-09-07 14:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking that its both. If you told him that you liked him just as a friend then some point in your relationship he gave up waiting on you. Thinking that if she doesn't want me like that then she must have found somebody else. So in order to protect himself from being hurt he has given up on what dreams he had for the both of you. It's really hard to move on and find somebody else when you have a relationship like yours (from his end). So no he hasn't found anybody else but at the same time he's giving up hope for the both of you to be together because he is now officially in the friend zone.
2006-09-07 14:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by The Plague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he realized he was wasting his time by trying to romance you. Whether or not he acted on this by getting a girlfriend is irrelevant. It is his right. Don't try to ask him what's going on, the poor guy waited over a year and now he may have found happiness in somebody who cares about him the way he wanted all along. Just continue to be his friend but understand that eventually everybody moves on.
2006-09-07 14:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Kung Fu Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be many things, but if he's just a friend to you, why do you want him to send you cards and call you all the time? And does it really matter if he's dating anyone? Maybe you can think of him as more than a friend you and just suppressed it. Think about it.
2006-09-07 14:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think both of them!!!He probably found someone that he knew he had a chance with and started dating her!! And as far as the waiting situation goes, he probably did get tired of waiting on you!!Those things happen though!!1
2006-09-07 14:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by sarah b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definately he is dating someone. He probably thinks that you will be jealous of this other girl and that is why he is denying it, even though you don't love him that way. It is still the fact there is another woman in his life that his attention is devoted too...the other woman might be jealous as well so that could be another reason he doesn't do it anymore.
2006-09-07 14:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by Hydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋