I am so freaking confused. I split up with an old girlfriend. After a few months, I got together with another girl. Well I just recently Found out my ex is going to be moving back fairly soon. my problem is I still love my ex, but at the same time I love my current girlfriend. Any suggestions? I chatted with my ex and she kept hinting at "something" I'm so freaking confused. any suggestions?
2006-09-07 07:38:52 · 23 answers · asked by kiatzu_shutendo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With my current GF, she realized that I still loved my Ex before I knew it myself.
2006-09-07 07:52:24 · update #1
The reason my ex and I broke up was because she moved, not because it was a bad relationship.
2006-09-07 11:28:50 · update #2
Join the myriad people who have confused love for a plain feeling!Love as a noun should not exist! Love is a verb that has to be played out to its fullest extent in order to achieve the most benefit from it. Had you actually 'loved' and not just 'been in love' with your ex, you would have never left her. Love is a verb that extends its arms around the other person's traits, both positive and negative, and tries to make that person reach his or her full potential as a human being. Love requires sacrifice, patience, understanding, tolerance, compassion, and lots and lots of common sense. Being 'in love', on the other hand, only requires attraction, hormones, and a lot of rancid, outdated, romantic notions imposed upon us from birth. Being 'in love' can involve yourself and as many other persons as fit your fancy but loving two or more sexual interests opens up a whole new gamma of interpersonal conduct.
2006-09-07 07:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd remember that you broke up with your ex for a reason. Also consider she may just be using you to fill the gap while she's back home. If you've got something good with your current gf, don't ruin it by exploring a relationship with an ex that you and I both know probably won't work out despite you, and maybe her, wanting it to.
2006-09-07 07:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give you is what you already know. You have to make the decision of who you love more, and who you would rather be with. But before you make any decisions, make sure that both women do in fact want you, so you dont' make a decision and are left out in the cold. And don't let your new gf know about you thinking about your ex, because then if you choose her, she wont' want to be with you anyway.
2006-09-07 07:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Green Tea Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you split up with your ex then I'm sure it was for a reason. You ahve to remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder. And if you leave your current girlfriend, you're skipping out without giving her a fair chance.
2006-09-07 07:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the ex.
And stop being a cheater. You are with somebody else, so you have no business talking to somebody who's hinting you at something.
If you want your ex so bad, then have the balls to drop your current girlfriend. It is not fair for her that you are having these types of communications behind her back.
Man up!!!!
2006-09-07 07:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by elnyka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issues that made your EX an EX will still be present if you two get back together. Flip-flopping between the two of them might cause them both to hate you. Be honest with everyone involved -including yourself.
2006-09-07 08:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can;t have it all, You do not know if your ex, has a friend, or even involved with someone, and you do not know if she will give you the time of day, and if she does go back to you, she is going to say, see you cheated on your ex, she is not going to trust you. If you love your girlfriend, be their for her. show her how strong you can be.
2006-09-07 07:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should find out who you love more, or who you are IN LOVE with. You cant be IN LOVE with two people. But believe me I know how you feel. If its your current girlfriend your IN LOVE with then just dont pay any attention to the other one. If its the ex then you should tell your current girlfriend the situation and break it off with her.
good luck buddy!
2006-09-07 07:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first loyalty is to your current girlfriend, you broke up with the previous one for a reason....... and do you really want to be thrown into a situation where you are forced to choose between them. If needs be make "pro's and con's" lists to dating both girls (and be brutally honest with the lists) and maybe that will help you make up your mind.
2006-09-07 07:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Solution!!!!! Your GF is your priority. Your ex is not your GF. Focus on your priority.
If your GF ceases to be your prioity, then you need to tell her and you need to work it out. If it doesn't work and you split, you can then refocus your efforts elsewhere (i.e. your ex., a rock, or perhaps a tree)
If you can't handle this, neither girl deserves you.
2006-09-07 07:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋