I am 25 and I have two girls ages 2 & 4. My husband and I have a moderate income. I go to school now( two year degree). Id like to try for a boy (not that sex really matters). Should I try now or after I graduate from school and land a good job? If I wait will the kid's age gaps be an issue?
2006-09-07 07:29:37 · 28 answers · asked by momof2borninmarch 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Anything is potentially possible, but you should live in the now, not for some hypothetical problem that might not even be a problem. Look within to see what you most desire. If you want a child now and can afford one, go for it. If you can't but can arrange your life, do it. But if you can't afford to, and feel the need to complete the other matters of your life, wait. The child's older siblings could out to be very protective, and you might need to rely on them, which is arguably easier when they are older.
If I had to choose, I would say wait. The sisters have each other, you're still young, and your husband already is a male role model for the girls.
2006-09-07 07:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you are done with school and get a nice job and work for awhile then have your baby. I don't think the ages will be an issue, I have a son who is 3 I would like to have another one soon also because of the age differance, but also I am 1 out of 3 kids and my brothers are 8 and 9 years older than me and that turned out okay.
2006-09-07 14:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Amy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me and I wanted another child, I would be temped to wait until after I finished school. It would be less stress on you and your body, not to mention your schedules with hubby and kids. I don't really think the age gap thing is a big issue, I have four kids 15,12,8,and 6 and while my two youngest are 20 months apart it wasn't much more hectic then the space between my first two. Talk it over with your hubby and then go with what you feel in your hearts you can handle. God will take care of the rest.
2006-09-07 14:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may become an issue as the other two may get jealous of a new born when they reach a certain age, but not necessarily.
the most important thing is what you and your husband feel is best for the two of you. I think after you graduate may be best cause you can get your degree out the way with less stress and you are still young so you have no worries about not conceiving. I hope this has helped and good luck with your degree and your future.
2006-09-07 14:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by toffees1230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a good idea to keep your kids close in age to each other, if your pocketbook can handle it I would try now, but what happens if its another girl? Are you still going to feel the need to have a boy? 3 kids is more than enough this day in age, I would suggest you stay with 2 but im a guy. I have a 8 year old daughter and raise her myself, have since see was 2. And I make over 30k net a year and I dont have bad money problems but another child would sink me, I think maybe its just because I over-spend on this one now, spoiled is the word.
2006-09-07 14:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Later Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would get it over with now while the getting is good. Who knows what the future will bring. Not to mention, its much easier on a person going for job who already has their kids than it is for someone that still has the potential to be taking off 6 months for maternity leave. There's also the issue of having kids in a few years when you already have to working to get out the house. I think its best to have them all relatively close together then you've done it and sit back and enjoy the rest of your life.
2006-09-07 14:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sandi A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it would be best to wait untill you finished your degree. One is your life would be more stable, because you would not have to leave school to have the baby. Second you would be better off finicially. Your still young and have plenty of time. And the age gap would not be a big deal at all, I am six years older then my younger brother and we are still close. I hope this helps you out. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!
2006-09-07 14:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by ShOrTy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, Go for another baby. If you have two, and you've been okay balancing your family's life, go for it. I believe it will make your family stronger. If you wait until everything in your life is perfect (who knows when that will be) you'll miss out on life. At the end of the day, think about what will warm your heart more and what will be more important.... a great job or a handsome addition to the family. You'll do just fine if your heart is aching for another baby! Good Luck!
2006-09-07 14:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by ArbonneAdvertising 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents had us 3-4 years apart.Until my brother he's 10 years younger than me and I'm the baby out of 3 girls. I would say to graduate first then have a baby.
2006-09-07 14:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, two is enough. But, of course it is up to you. I would wait until you are done with school if you REALLY think you want another
Your children have not even started school yet. Holly Molly! It cost SO much. $75 just for school supplies for my 1st grader and I don't even know how much for my 7th grader. Locker fee, gym cloths and shoes, ASB, year book, sports, pictures. I am way over $300 just to start school and that is w/out supplies.
And then, there is the cloths. Don't forget school lunch. $6.00 a day between the two of them to eat lunch. They never want cold lunch.
Just something to think about!
2006-09-07 14:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by candispassion.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋