I know it's bad to try to change people but it's for the good. I don't think i wrote the question in the right way but i have a friend and he is a major player. He knows it and i know it too. I don't want him to be like that anymore because he breaks too many hearts,many of them my friends'. How can i change him for the good? I'm guessing he'll change when he finds the right girl that will set him straight.
I'm thinking maybe that girl could be me.
2006-09-07 07:20:12 · 39 answers · asked by Jasmine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO. If you go into a relationship with the idea that the other will change due to your direction, then you will ALWAYS end up being burned. Always, 100%, never ever ever has there ever been a case of this turning out differently. Not once in recoreded history! And that's a fact, jack!
2006-09-07 07:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, Sorry. You should never get in a relationship with the intent to change a guy. It doesn't matter what Hollywood puts out there, there are some things that are just the fact of life. If he is a player then he will always be a player unless something happens that makes HIM want to change. You can do nothing. It's him who has to what to change. My advise. Find someone that wants you for you and doesn't want to play the field.
2006-09-07 07:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by susan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no concrete answer to t his. Maybe you can change him. Doesn't mean that all 'players' can be made into a nice guy. Chances are these changes won't happen because of you though. They'll more than likely come with time (maturity). The problem is that no matter how old some guys get, they simply don't mature. They age, but maturity is the same as a 15 year old boy. You can give it a shot, just don't be suprised if he's still the same cheap thrills player a year from now.
2006-09-07 07:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Before I even got to that bottom line I could tell that you like him. For the right person, two people will 'adapt' to the other so it can work out. They will either temporally or permanently change their ways for someone when they are in a relationship. It all depends on how long it can last. If you think the two of you will be good together, then go right ahead. Remember though, you knew what he is like before you get with him, you can not hold it 100% against him if he falls back into his old ways...
2006-09-07 07:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by Optimus P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T THINK YOU CAN CHANGE A PLAYER INTO A NICE GUY. ONCE A PLAYER ALWAYS A PLAYER UNTIL HE LOSES EVERYTHING TO THE GAME. YOU CAN PICK A GUY WHO LOOKS GOOD ENOUGH TO BE A PLAYER THAT IS NOT. THEN YOU CAN BE TREATED AS YOU DESERVE. EVEN THOUGH I AM A MAN I SAY MOST ARE DOGS. AND I CANT DISMISS THE FACT I WAS A PLAYER ABOUT 16 YEARS AGO. I AM THROUGH IT AND HAVE LEARNED FROM MISTAKES AND BECAME THE MOST KIND,CONCERNED,GENTLE MAN THAT STILL CARRIES A TOUGH BUT NICE LOOK AND SHOW ALL WOMEN THE UPMOST RESPECT. BUT I ALSO KNOW THAT THE LADIES CAN BE PLAYERS AT THE GAME AS MEN CAN. I KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR AND WHAT TO STAY AWAY FROM. I HOPE THIS HELPS. COMES FROM EXPERIENCE. RONNIE P
2006-09-07 07:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by ronniep17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. They must change for themselves.
Men love no strings attached. This is the reason they become a player. (I dont really like that term) They arent really playing anyone. They talk to you, get you to like them, have sex (upon your consent also) and then head out. You agreed and they agreed to the sex. No playing of the emotions except to those girls that "think" they can change a guy. Most of the guys are straight up. They let you know its not going far. This goes through one ear and out the other for women... they have sex and develop feelings (usually) and want more. They hurt themselves in the long run. (Notice I said most guys or most girls) not all.
2006-09-07 07:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they can only change for a certain amount of time but eventually if it has been easy for them before they will do it again.
But if you are interested in him and want to try and change him go for it, he might is not like you are going to marry this guy. And if you do watch out cause a player always a player.
2006-09-07 07:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say his age. Players will settle down but most often it's because they lose their looks or are getting too old to play any more. If he's a heartbreaker, he has to want to change his ways. Lots of guys enjoy this lifestyle well into their late 40's.
2006-09-07 07:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by ingy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be setting yourself up to be another name on his heartbreak list. A player changes when they feel it's time to change. When they find that person and finally get emotionally invested.
Right now, he's playing the game, he like to chase and be chased.
Even if you do manage to get into a relationship with him, players tend to miss the life they had and their affections may wander.
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-07 07:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mistake is trying to change a man!
Will you women PLEASE STOP TRYING TO CHANGE US?!?!
If you want a nice guy go for those instead of players.
If you want a gorgeous player enjoy it but expect to be played.
If you want a bad boy go for it but have plenty of bail money.
BUT STOP TRYING TO CHANGE A MAN!
We are not a project to be worked on nor are we a broken tool that needs fixing.
Only the person can change themselves when the time is right, and yes maturity has a lot to do with it but not all.
2006-09-07 07:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋