When I say fighting I mean they HATE each other. I want to be able to talk to all of them without feeling like I am betraying someone. I know its not my fight but I cant help feeling guilty. I dont know what they are even fighting about anymore. They all embelish the truth so much its hard to keep up. I cant invite them all to events at the same time because of the fighting. They even had a fist fight at my wedding. Any advice? And not talking to them is not an option. I see them too often.
2006-09-07 07:07:32 · 4 answers · asked by momof2borninmarch 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I didnt mention that they have children that I am attached to. I will not stop seeing them because I love their kids. Ther is no reason to be nasty. I asked a ligitimate question.
2006-09-07 07:21:41 · update #1
I applaud you on wanting to try and hold things together. It sounds like a very difficult situation. My only advice would be to try and deal with them one on one, which I know isn't always easy. What may be even harder still is walking away if it get;'s to be too much to handle anymore. I know they are family and you love them, but it's entirely possible that they're fighting may put a strain on your own life and marriage in the future. You may have to prepair to separate yourself from them. The most important thing right now is you husband and the life you two are building, don't let their hate for each other put stress on your marriage. Good Luck........
2006-09-07 07:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't let them attempt to make you feel guilty by talkingand keeping in touch with each of them individually. Keep the peace as much as you can, and take everything with a grain of salt. Congrats at being the 'adult' in all of this! It's hard, but hopefully they'll all grow up enough to realize what a blessing siblings really are.
2006-09-07 14:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jen-Jen 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, why on earth are you seeing a bunch of people who seem to do nothing more than bicker? Yes, dear, it IS an option NOT to speak with them! No one is FORCING YOU to be around them. Tell them that you cannot be around them if they insist on bickering with one another. Then, stick by your guns and go your own way if they refuse to act like civilized human beings. You are betraying no one but yourself by continuing to be a part of their temper tantrums. You can change no one's behavior but your own, so I would avoid them until and unless they choose to behave. It's just that simple.
2006-09-07 14:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow...they need to grow up! there is no reason for them to keep fighting as adults...and they have kids, You need to sit them down and tell them how terrible this has made you feel.
2006-09-07 14:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by baseballmommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋