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Question

my son is bitting people and i do not know how do stop it.

Answer 1

This is a tough one, as a trained nursery nurse, I was always told it was important to ignore bad behaviour, and biting was just a phase that children grow out of, its a sign of frustration when they cannot verbalise their emotions. And you should never bite the child back. However as a parent, my dad told me I used to do it, and he bit me back once and I never did it again, so when my son started biting I was in a dilemma. I tried the professional method for a couple of months, and when it continued, he could verbalise quite well I might add. I wondered about the biting back method. I decided to try a lighter approach and asked him to bite me, which he did, I made a big fuss and cried my eyes out. He was distraught to see me so upset. I told him that he must never baite anyone because it upsets them and hurts THAT much! He stopped.
Its one of those things you know your child, is it just one person he's biting or everyone? Everyone, is a sign of frustration. One person is a definite problem with the person he's biting. Dig deeper

Answer 2

I'm a mum of four and this is totally normal but can't be allowed as it's anti-social. DON'T BITE HIM BACK! You're all he has in the world, and all that will teach him is that when he's big enough he can act like that and it'll be okay. You have to find your strong parent self and when he hurts another child or you know he's about to - shout NO!!! in the most stern way that you can and promptly REMOVE HIM from what he was doing and re-locate him somewhere else in the room and don't allow him to return to the former activity no matter what. It's your responsibility as a parent to teach him to interact with other children, in a way that will be fun and enjoyable for all concerned. He must know that you will never allow him to continue playing once he's been aggressive. It gets boring after a while but if you keep it up for a couple of weeks, I promise you he'll stop. If you love him, you owe it to him to teach him right from wrong, and you absolutely CAN do it without violence and just with the sheer force of your own personality, because you want the best for him. Good Luck.

Answer 3

My son used to bite all the time. I tried everything to stop him - telling him its naughty, sitting him on the bottom of the stairs, putting him in his bedroom. The only thing that worked after 18 months was biting him back. As soon as my younger son bit me i bit him back straight away and he has not bitten since. It is a horrible thing to do but it does work!!

Answer 4

I had a step-son who bit. The daycare he went to tried a million things, his mom was a pushover so no help there. I asked his mom if I could bite him back- she said ok but that she couldn't do it. I bit him back- not hard enough to leave a mark or anything, just so he knew how it felt. He didn't bite again. Luckily none of my kids were biters but had they been I would have bit them back too.

Answer 5

I had the same problem with my son. He did it twice and the third time I did what so many others have advise, I bit him. He then understood that what he was doing was hurting others and he never did it again. I know it sounds drastic but I bite him enough just for it to hurt and then we talked about it with lots of hugs and kisses afterwards. Good luck.

Answer 6

Don't bite him back that is abuseive. You don't want him to see you saying don't do something, and then you do it.

Find is favorite toy and put it in time out or him in time out. Be very clear why you are doing it. By age three kids understand why they are doing stuff. Look him straight in the eye and tell him why he is being punished. Make a big deal out of putting the toy in a place where he can't reach it, and make him sit on his bed without toys or anything else.

Answer 7

My son used to bite me when he was 7 months old. Itz only me he used to bite. You need little patience , every time he did that I told him that mama is not happy. It hurts . Only by repeatingly telling the child it would make him stop. Not by biting him back. The child will not understand that it is wrong.

Answer 8

My sister did the same thing to everyone (especially to me!) when she was about 5-6 years old. My mom was at her wits end. She told me I could bite her back (which I just couldn't do), she tried biting her herself to show how much it hurt. She even took a pair of pliers out of the toolbox and threatened to pull her teeth. I'm not kidding. It was the only thing that worked. It sounds terrible, and today a parent would probably be locked way by child services, but seriously, it was the only thing that finally got through to her.

Answer 9

When he bites take him for time out away from the fun. Talk to him and explain why you have removed him. Let him calm down then make him apologise. I dont think you should bite him back how can that set an example if you are telling him its wrong then doing it yourself. Its very common and he will grow out of it.

Answer 10

Unfortunately in these days of Human rights and being politically correct, I tend to agree with the bite back theory. If you do it you can gauge the amount of pressure used and not cause damage. I was bitten as a child until my Mum made me bite back. This said I did not continue biting nor did I ever get bitten again.