My ex boyfriend died on yesterday which I had a breakdown and it really hurt me to my heart to know he is gone. We have been broken up for years and we have a daughter together. Is it normal for me to have love for him. I just can't stop thinking about him, he is on my mind and when i think of him i begin to cry knowing that he is gone. but i don't want my boyfriend to see me crying over him. He has never done anything for my daughter at all.
2006-09-07 06:13:42 · 24 answers · asked by BabyGirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its completely normal to have a connection to the father of your child. Your boyfriend should understand. I'm terribly sorry for your loss.
2006-09-07 06:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Course its normal to cry over your ex. You guys had enough love for each other to have a child together. And even though you were broken up for sometime there, you still had much of a connection through your child. And it doesn't matter if your current boyfriend sees you crying over your ex, he has nothing to do with your feelings at all. He should also man up and take care of you and your child.
2006-09-07 13:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is completely normal.... Your daughter lost her biological father even if he was an absentee father in your heart you always hoped that he would someday come around and treat your daughter as she should be treated... Now that oppurtunity is lost forever..
Yes, you will feel a love (not a romantic love or a deep love) for him, he in essense helped you create your daughter and to feel an affection/love for that single act is normal...
Remember that you are not in love with your ex but meerly are grateful you got your daughter out of the relationship... Much of the sadness you feel is because of the things your daughter has lost, the possibility of a relationship with her biological father ect. not for things you have lost..
Talk to your current boyfriend and explain to him your feelings of sadness at the death of your daughters father, he will likely understand the feeling of lose you are feeling for your daughter and be able to help you overcome them....
Give it a bit of time it only happened yesturday which means it is a new wound and will need time to heal...
2006-09-07 13:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just your way of dealing with death ... crying is natural ... missing them is normal ... you were in love with him at one time .. and you have a piece of him that will be with you forever ... his daughter ... !
Your boyfriend should be understanding .. you didn't just lose an ex-boyfriend ... you lost the father of your child ... things will get back to normal after awhile but that space in your heart for him will always be there ... !
2006-09-07 13:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had to have had love for him at some point in your relationship. I think you are in titled to be sad, I mean the father of your child has pass away. Your boyfriend now, should be asking you how you are feeling and trying to help you through this. How is your daughter? I am sure you both are suffering. God Bless and so sorry about the loss.
2006-09-07 13:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband stole my son at 8 months old I did not see my son again until he was 16 years old my ex had told him I was dead. Yet when he died this year I grieved for the man he once was before he went bad. It is normal and it says a lot about how loving and forgiving you can be. Do not let anyone tell you not to grieve for him.
2006-09-07 13:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me say that I'm VERY sorry that you're not feeling so great. But now, to answer your question...Yes, that's completely normal. If my ex, who I have a beautiful baby girl with, died, I would be devastated, and I think part of that is due to the fact that I have a child with him. Everytime I look at her, I see him, and remember all the great times we had together. Stay strong, sweetheart.
2006-09-07 13:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. Even though he wasnt there for you like he should have been you are still mourning his loss. Maybe you are also sad, because he is gone permenantly and now you have to raise the child alone, and even if he wanted to be he can not be there for you. Maybe (if there are such things as ghosts) he needs to see you are hurt by his passing. Time will heal your pain. Just take it day by day, and eventually it will get better.
2006-09-07 13:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by LadyRaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to read about ur ex but dont worry about it its natural to cry. U and he shared a pass and u have a child together so there will always be a bond between you.You should talk to your bf and explain to him how you feel. If he loves you he will understand and give you time to grieve. Good Luck
2006-09-07 13:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by Pat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. Of course what you are feeling is normal. Even though you have been separated for years you made a child together once which is an act of love. Allow yourself to grieve. You will feel better for it eventually.
2006-09-07 13:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋