Three years ago I was about to get married to an amazing person. We had agreed that we will not have sex before marriage. Basically, it was my wish and he accepted—no questions asked. Before we get in the church to get married we got hit by a car. Unfortunately, the accident cost him his life and in a way mine, too. Many times I wonder if I should have slept with him or if I did the right thing. What is your opinion?
2006-09-07 06:02:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im sorry about that.
You can take heart that he loved you enuff to accept your wishes as they were. True love is more than sex. He showed you the deepest part of him...his commitment and acceptance.
2006-09-07 06:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about this tragedy. No you are not a bad person because you had sex before marriage. I know that God doesn't want us to have sex without getting married, but you are human. All of us make mistakes. All of us do things that we shouldn't do. We all disobey God's wishes and commandments. We are all human though. He doesn't love us any different (right or wrong). Don't beat yourself up about this. Everything happens for a reason. Our lives aren't promised. Pray and talk to God. Talk to a counselor. Believe in yourself.
2006-09-07 06:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. That's horrible.
Did you do the right thing?...well, you did what you felt was right at the time...so I guess that's the right thing.
However, It's understandable that you feel you may have missed out on the experience of physical love with this man. But, don't dwell on these things...coulda, shoulda, woulda. You did what you felt you had to do.
Always live life as if each day may be your last. Whatever happens, happens for a reason.
2006-09-07 06:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think sleeping with him would have changed the situation. U did what you felt was best and I dont think you should question your decision...that is a very unfortunate decision and i'm sorry u had to go through that...was the accident on your wedding day, like right as you were walking in??
2006-09-07 06:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by tha gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did that right thing to wait. It's only natural to think back after some near death shet and think 'what if.' And keep waiting. If you guys get through this accident together and get married down the road, it'll be worth the wait. I'm sure. If not...there'll be someone else....
2006-09-07 06:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. We can only make decisions as if our lives are going to go on. It is unrealistic to live life as if each day might be our last. I am so sorry you lost your mate. Would you have missed him any less if you had sex with him? I don't think so. You had a true love in him.
Yours is such a tragic story. I do hope you have gone on with your life as best you can.
God bless you.
2006-09-07 06:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your lose. I think you did what was right for you. He obviously thought it was right too or he would not have agreed. Neither of you could have known what would happen. You were right to do what you believed in and I am sure that wherever he is that he has no regrets. I am sure that he would want for you to be happy and to not worry about anything because clearly he loved you.
2006-09-07 06:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by hounchella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss ... I think you did the right thing .. like my husband said you can not 2nd guess your decision. Always remember the special moments you shared with him, and he is still in your heart each day.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-07 06:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
loving someone isnt just about having sex with him/her! the luv u showed n proved to eachother means alot more than that !! thts important !! and i think u did the right thing.. u can have the same aggreement with some one else, that u WILL find in the future, and u wikll not regret this.. im sorry abt u ex..!
2006-09-07 06:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. That is truly something sad. I think you did the right thing. B/c you will with time move on and find someone else to share those same experiances with you. I'm sure your past fiancee would want it this way.
2006-09-07 06:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋