We have lived in this house for about a year and a half, and have only had one of our neighbors come and introduce the "new people." Our next-door neighbors aren't very social, and we'd like to get to know our neighbors. Any ideas of properly breaking the ice?
It would probably be good to add that we bought the house from its original owners who had the house for 30 years. They raised their kids in that house and finally we bought this 4 br 4 bath house from a single lady, whose kids had grown up and husband had died. Could it be that the neighbors have so much history with them that we're just not the old family?
2006-09-07 06:01:08 · 12 answers · asked by GLSigma3 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Established neighborhoods I've found to be not as friendly. The one I live in now has had a huge turnover in the last few years, so we've met a lot of people around here. It can be difficult when you move into a place, and there still exists owners from 30-40 years ago. I think making your way over to their place with a treat, a simple knock on the door, and a non-invasive introduction would work wonders.
2006-09-07 06:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing you may want to consider is the fact that some people are not as social, and are much more private than others. Modern society has dictated to us that those who need/choose less socializing than others, are "weird or stuck up" when the fact is, some people just prefer selcusion.
I'm only 32, and I regret meeting most of the neighbors that I have. Now that I've bought a house and moved, my family keeps to ourselves.
My point in all this is that it's all well and good to want to get to know your neighbors. But their wishes and boundaries should be respected as well. If they're not interested in pursuing friendship, or even casual contact, it is their right and should be treated as such.
2006-09-07 13:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by d h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me, like your neighbors may be older neighbors and usually they are very cautious of new people. Gradually start a conversation -- "good morning" would be a start. Then on another day maybe comment on their yard if you see them outside or comment on the day. The way we got to know one of our neighbors is that we noticed that his car had been sitting at home for a week and we knocked and asked what was wrong, they told us and we immediately went and got a fruit basket and that was the beginning of beginning. Maybe their other neighbors had never been friendly towards your neighbors and that was the case with the neighbors we talked to. They've lived in that house for 10 years and knew no one.
2006-09-07 13:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about a neighborhood picnic? Send out invitations. Tell your neighbors to bring a treat to share and you all can get together. Tell them to bring their kids, too.
You can have name tags- although the neighbors probably know each other, they just don't know you.
It may be worth it. Maybe the neighbors don't want to intrude until they know it's o.k. to come over.
2006-09-07 13:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be. Why not throw an informal backyard bbq? Invite some of your friends & family plus all of the neighbors. Those that come will get to know you better.
2006-09-07 13:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make a kind of event that people wouldn't mind coming to like a party, a garage sale.
i don't think it is the other family before you. maybe you guys are not out there enough (which is ok) but if you are then you should try to be more open like do things outside instead of in :)
2006-09-07 13:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wave when you see them drive by. Go get your mail at the same time they do. Say hi.
2006-09-07 13:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Paul L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a party and invite all the neighbours.
2006-09-07 13:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by Pamela J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not bake them a pie and go over and say hi! (Sorry...didn't mean to rhyme)
2006-09-07 13:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Shout At Them and call them
HA HA HA
Just a joke
2006-09-07 13:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by Rachit 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋