my girlfriend of two years cheated on me again and she says she is sorry. i love hre so much i just dont want to end things with her. she says she wont do it again but im having a hard time believing her since i caught her in the act both times and she never thought to admit it to me either time. how do i get over my trust issues with her?
2006-09-07 05:57:38 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't. You shouldn't trust her. Something tells me that you're going to take her back anyways and find some way to overlook her cheating on you twice in the past (that you know of). You should have left her the first time she cheated on you. If the cheating wasn't enough, then the fact that she cheated on you and never told you about it til she was caught red handed should say a lot about her. She's done this to you with two guys now. There could be more since she's never once come to you feeling guilty and admitted these affairs to you. She'll do it to you again. It's just a matter of how long from now, with how many different guys, and will she be dumb enough to let you catch her again? Cheating is a $hitty thing to do. Plain and simple. She's the ONE person in your life that should be your rock. The one person who, while you may drive eachother crazy from time to time, should always be there for you and should always be loyal to you. Just as you are to her (I hope). She's not though. She's a lousy individual and you're blind not to see it. There's no doubt in my mind that you still love her. It only seems natural. You can't just turn these emotions on and off like a light swtich. Use your head though! (The one on your shoulders.) I'm probably wasting my time saying this, but there's no doubt in my mind that you'll be coming back here asking something along the lines of "My girlfriend has cheated on me three times now. Should I give her another chance? Third time is the charm right?" Don't be so blind man. Leave her.
2006-09-07 06:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to build trust back into a relationship once it's gone. You didn't do anything wrong and it's admirable that you want to stay and work through things - for a lot of people infidelity is a deal breaker and they just walk away from a relationship. Your girlfriend should take the responsiblity for making sure she acts in ways that will make you trust her again... and it will probably take a long time. If you're sure that you love her and that you are happier with her than without her, and that you're not compromising your own wellbeing, than I think the both of you need to sit down and communicate and work out a plan to get through this. Good luck - I hope you find your happiness.
2006-09-07 06:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I know exactly how you feel. Trust is a very hard thing to build up with someone that's broken it. My boyfriend has been caught a couple of times, and the trust is almost non existent. If she's sorry, and you want to take her back, let her know things are not going to be the same as they were before she cheated. She's going to have to work her butt off to get your trust back. It's not going to be easy, but if both of you are willing to work on the relationship then it just might work out O.K. Good Luck!
2006-09-07 06:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by purelce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
Sorry to hear about your situation. From experience, you should know that once a cheater will always remain a cheater. My ex cheated on me with his last Girlfriend ( I didn't know he had a girlfriend at the time). Well, surprise, surprise, he cheated on me! Anyway, don't let her hurt and disrespect you that way. You deserve better, a woman who will only want to be with you only. If she cheats, it only means two things: 1. She's not happy with you and the relationship. 2. She's using you for the time being for a particular reason (either money, she's lonely, etc.). It's a tough choice, but it's best to let her go. You cannot trust her, no matter what she says.
Take care and good luck.
2006-09-07 06:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by bebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you freakin crazy !!!! Throw the skank to the curb. Move on with you life. She broke your trust and yet you still want to be with her. "Man Up" and take a stand, this is the last time it's going to happen to you. You caught her two times, come on !!! Why not just give her five hundred dollars for every time she cheated on you so you can really feel the pain. Maybe then you'll know she treated you wrong.
2006-09-07 06:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't! Dump her! She obviously doesn't love you the way you love her and if you were able to forgive her after you caught her once and she is now doing it again....there is no hope for the two of you....she completely lives up to the saying"once a cheater, always a cheater".
Leave her and find someone that loves you enough not to cheat and hurt you this way.
Good Luck.
2006-09-07 06:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women are not worth the sweet off your balls. She will do it again and again. She not in love with you, she's in love with your wallet! You only caught her 2 times when in truth she cheated a hell of a lot more. How many times did she cheated and did not get caught? Dump her before you get a STD from her.
2006-09-07 06:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant. You are going to think about it forever!!! I know what you are dealing with. My ex cheated on me, and I did love him so much. But you have to let go. The pain will go away believe me.. You will realize that you could be so much happier with somebody else. Somebody who will not cheat and be faithful. If you always have to think about if she will cheat, you will always be unhappy. Trust is very important.
So let yourself grieve for a while. But get out now! It is not going to change. Even if she is sorry.
2006-09-07 06:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can appreciate loving someone so much you don't want it to end but, you've already caught her twice so the best thing I can tell you is either look for someone else or get used to having your heart broke......She's done it twice....and she'll continue to do so.....Sorry not what you wanted to hear I'm sure but it's true, and you'll find out the hard way!
2006-09-07 06:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love her so much that you don't want to end things with her, but do you love her so much that you are willing to put up with her continued cheating? Because that's what it boils down to.........you won't be able to get over trust issues with her because she will likely never earn your trust.
2006-09-07 06:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋