2006-09-07 05:48:53 · 11 answers · asked by MeMe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Are you catholic? There are pre-cana classes you can take, which are like a prep course for marriage. Are you getting married in a church? Maybe your priest/reverend/rabbi could get you two together. Men are stubborn when it comes to counseling, trust me I know, but we've been married for 1yr, and we're in counseling now, and as our counselor stated, they should have a class called "marriage 101" because marriage is not easy. As for you two, if your guy is not ready to go to counseling right now, it would be better if you don't push him because he may not be so into it if he does go. As for you, I would do a lot of reading on ''marriage, the first year". Things can always be worked out and marriage is great but there will always be bumps in the road, just keep that in mind.
2006-09-07 06:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by hellomyfriend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you marry aman who isn't willing to iron out the before marriage bumps? What will you do if in 15 years, he won't go to fix real damage? There is nothing wrong with people who get premarital counseling, it helps you learn more about yourself and your future spouse. Why would anyone not want that? You have got to be hearing the big siren: this is a huge red flag and I would suggest you take good inventory of other controlling behavior!
2006-09-07 13:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the reason for the premarital counseling? Just so you can be proactive? Be prepared for married life? Because nothing can really PREPARE you for married life.
If the two of you have issues that need resolving prior to the marriage I would suggest that you tell your fiance that the premarital counseling will help you be a "better" wife and friend and that is extremely important to you. Let him know that the counseling will help both of you be happier in life.
2006-09-07 12:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to determine why he won't go and see if there is a compromise you can reach.
If he absolutely refuses then you should go by yourself to make sure you are clearly seeing your relationship and his commitment to you and your approaching marriage. If he's not then either the wedding should be delayed or you should part ways. It would be better for that to happen now than before you're married, have kids, etc.
2006-09-07 12:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by Newlungs2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you having a church wedding? If you are, they are probably going to require it for you to get married there. Even if you are not being married in a church, most ministers require some premarital counselling before they will perform the ceremony.
2006-09-09 19:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on where you are getting married, both of you may have to. If it's only a personal option, and he won't go to counselling, you may have a problem on your hands. Talk to him more about it, and find out what he's scared of.
2006-09-07 17:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES go he is probably scarred they say you aren't compatible but that is not what they do they find where you will have issue and give you hints on how to handle it make him go. really it is that important trust me on this !!! you need to know how each other would deal and They have ways of getting the core you never really know someone, but before you spend your life finding out make sure you know what you could be up against
2006-09-07 14:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by Florida Dawn 13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling will help with issues you do not normally think about. Try a book if he will not go. This is the book our priest used.
http://conciliarpress.bizhosting.com/preserve_them_o_lord.html
2006-09-09 13:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by travelguruette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand. My fiance isn't too wild about it. He thinks that we can work things out with out the help of other people. Just let him know that this is important to you. What does he have to lose? Just take the opportunity to learn something new.
2006-09-07 22:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by countrychic2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get married in a church, you have to have premarital counselling with the officiating pastor/minister/priest.
2006-09-07 16:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋