we were together for 23 months and never once was i put first his drugs came before me and his kids. but yet everytime i was ready to leave he cried and swore i was the only one who could help him get off drugs so after i finally left he keeps calling me playing love songs and apologizing for eveything he did and wants me to come back but i told him i couldnt and he says i never cared about him i admit i wasnt in love with him but i did care and i tried to help but nothing ever worked. so how do i make him see i did the best i could and there is no us anymore
2006-09-07 05:29:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, so i have been in a similar situation, fortunatly you were smarter than i were and have let go. I held on until i had so much hate and anger built up inside of me towards him that i couldn't stand to look at him anymore. You should just ignore him....just give you and him time to breathe without contact with one another. Give yourself time to move on. What if you meet another man? That person won't like him always up in your buisness...just let it go for a while. As much as it will hurt him and probably you too, just ignore all of his contact attempts. Dont answer the phone. Don't even listen to his voice mails...delete them. Try it for a few days...it will get easier and easier. Just give it a try.
2006-09-07 05:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be very firm to tell him . If u have another boyfriend now it will be a good assurance that this is the end. However I am not suggesting u get a boyfriend in a hurry to deal with him.Caring for a person is not the same as boyfriend relationship that he must understand. If he has parents that u can contact seek help from them otherwise hang up your phone.
2006-09-07 05:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by CONFUSCIOUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have caller ID, don't answer the phone, or change your phone #. if an email pops up in your box, delete it. if he sends something in the mail, write "return to sender" on the front and the post office will send it back (at no charge to you). if he tries to see you in person, walk away and/or say "please leave." if he won't go away, find someone in authority to tell him to (e.g. if you're in the mall, find a security guard. if you're at work, ask your supervisor.)
if you eliminate any and all communications, you don't have to be mean or think of something else to say. he should get the picture. if he doesn't, document it all and get a restraining order.
2006-09-07 05:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by buffysummers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.let him no it is over by not calling ,answering your calls and not seeing him .... Lady he is not your problem addicts drag others into there crazy and you can't go with him it will only destroy your world in the end let God take him pray and walkaway. not your tragedy you can't let his sinking ship keep you from the sanity that lies beyond your life with him. Good luck an dget on with it change your house number if you need to but cut it off.......
2006-09-07 05:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by Florida Dawn 13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get the answer i need it also. i've been gone a year and a half and he still is wanting me back and sending cell phnes in the mail calls sends cards etc.. we are in our 40s and 50s and if i can't find the answer maybe you can.
2006-09-07 05:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by libitzinc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you've moved on and he should too cause it's only hurting him more.perhaps you should find someone new if you haven't already. show him it's over by moving on in a way he can understand.
2006-09-07 05:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him too, but as a brother!!
2006-09-07 05:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by goof ball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are engaged to someone else
2006-09-07 05:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit him
2006-09-07 05:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by mystico6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋